I need advice FAST !

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2003
I need advice FAST !
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Fri, 11-21-2003 - 9:43am
Hi Ladies .I am an occcasional poster . I don't have much time now . I have to be at work

at 11am .

OM- told me not to call him anymore and that he didn't want to see me . I found out he also blocked me ONLINE . We never really talked much online anyway ,that really bothered me . I haven't seen him in about 2 weeks . I will though see him today at work .

We sometimes work together .....We work w/ a lot of people . So, it's very difficult to talk .....

anyway here is my question : Do I acknowledge him . Do I dare say " hI, hOW ARE YOU " .

I in some form want sweet revenge ..........If you were in my heels how would you deal with this situation .I am also working with him tomorrow .........HELP ME ....THANX IN ADVANCE NJ GURL ..........

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 9:48am
njgurl -- TAKE A DEEP BREATH!! i know you're under the gun time-wise and can't really post much, but please keep your self-respect and be civil to OM at your workplace. just a polite "hello" or "good morning" is fine. give the situation a few days to play out. who knows, but if you do something silly like "sweet revenge" and then you and OM work out your problems, won't you feel dumb for making that stupid play.

PLEASE JUST KEEP YOUR COOL AND BE NICE BUT DISTANT, especially at work! no drama please!!

write more when you can and let us know what's behind the NC.

good luck and stay calm,

gurl

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-17-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 9:50am
Just my two cents, but I'd go to work, work on my work, and if there was occasion to deal with him in the course of my workday, I'd treat him like any other coworker.

If he wants to play that game, you can do it too. Just for today, act as if he were nobody special.

You'd be amazed how rewarding focusing on your work can be at times!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 10:31am
I've got to agree with the other two ladies. No drama... just treat him normal. MM and I worked very closely everyday. There were many "break-ups", the longest lasted a month. All that time we remained very professional at work and got the job done. I always thought it was cute that even if, in our private life, we "weren't speaking", we'd still do the little nice things for each other (buying a coffee for the other if we went out for one, etc.). We couldn't risk people guessing there was something going on because suddenly we WEREN'T nice to each other. Just treat him like any other co-worker.