I need to be schooled, I guess!!!

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Registered: 10-03-2008
I need to be schooled, I guess!!!
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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 1:51pm
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss



Edited 10/5/2008 12:36 pm ET by tygerzize

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 9:46pm

You sound like you are in so much pain. I'm sorry you are going through this alone. It's painful because it's love in a way that shouldn't be love. You are in love with someone who is unavailable to you. You, as a single mom, deserve SO much more than what this man is trying to give you. I understand that he is really a great guy and is treating you well, however, he still has a wife. No matter what the circumstance, he is not giving himself to you 100%. Do you want to feel like this forever? Do you want your son to realize that you are with a married man? How will HE feel about it down the road? How will you feel about yourself if you've wasted a great time in your life with a man who is not willing to give himself to you?

Just some things to think about......

}}}HUGS{{{{

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 11:21pm
Hey, look, I try my best to be encouraging about these things, but no, not this time. You are in the wrong place. Successful affairs are for people who are very clear about the risks and the rewards, and you are not that clear. I suggest that you get out of it, as soon as possible. I think he will understand. If he doesn't, tough luck -- but, trust me, he ALREADY understands. You don't. I hope you never do.
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Sun, 10-05-2008 - 11:34am

((hugs) to you as well...i completely understand where you are coming from with your response.

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Sun, 10-05-2008 - 11:50am

thank you love the board so much and love the support...i wouldn't say unavailable...we spend a lot of time together...both he and i are very selfish..and he always calls me spoiled and said it's his fault...as a matter of fact my friend wonder how he gets away so much and spends so much time and does this and that for my son and i.

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss