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| Sat, 04-17-2004 - 10:59am |
I have been divorced for almost a year and have just begun to feel ready to date again. I have never had an affair of any kind, but recently met a mm while on vacation, and we have very quickly become involved. Although we live, literally, 1000 miles from each other, we communicate daily through email as well as by phone, and we have a trip planned together in just a few days. This has been going on for about a month now, and he's told me all along that his marriage has been in trouble long before he met me. He told me the other night that he has spoken with a friend who has recently been through a divorce (due to an affair) and has gotten the name of an attorney and other advice to begin the process of leaving his wife, although he says that he still needs some time. He says that his friend stressed the importance of not making a decision too quickly (which I agree with). The problem for me is that I am falling in love with this man. It kills me to know that when he goes to bed at night, his wife is beside him, and I am going to bed alone. On top of it all, with the distance there's not much we can do about that at this point. When we go on this 5 day trip, I am sure it will be wonderful while we're together, but what do I do when it's time to say goodbye????? It's too late for me to not get emotionally involved, but I can't continue this waiting thing, especially with the distance between us. I don't want to rush him into leaving his wife - I don't want him to blame me, but I don't know how long I can continue this waiting game!! Please HELP!!!!
