I Need Help pretty long post.

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Registered: 05-26-2013
I Need Help pretty long post.
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Sat, 07-05-2014 - 6:04pm

I have been a lurker on here for about a year. My MM and i have been in this for 8 months. I have been having a lot of issues at home and i told him about 3 weeks ago I needed a break because I was really falling for him. he was like he hopes we can still talk. We did and made plans to meet the following week. He was bogged down at work and I was insecure and said I dont think we can meet on friday. He replied that he is in his feelings and feels like I have yo yo him around. And he stop repling to text and phone calls. So I went crazy and kept texing him throughout that weekend. That Wednesday I left him a message that eventhough I dont approve on how he did it I am glad that he started the NC because I needed to find myself. Which I have. I had a lot of stuff going on. So I called him when I was ready and he said yeah we need to talk. He didnt call me back because he was "busy". but he texted me a picture saying that when we over think things get blown out of propotion. So I asked him is he done with me and he replied back not done. He couldnt see me because he had to go to visit his son on the fourth. I have been sending him texts like i use to of funny things and saying that he is awesome (he has insecurities) and how we should start over. I just dont know what to do. I know it will be easy for people to say just walk away but when you have so much in common with a person and this person makes you laugh its not that easy. Do I give him time? Do I stop texting? What to do? And he has been checking his AM profile. 

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Sat, 07-05-2014 - 7:13pm
i think you should leave him alone for the time being. it sounds like you guys could both use some breathing room. hang out with other friends or work on a hobby or something. it will work out for the best; trust me :)
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Registered: 05-26-2013
Sun, 07-06-2014 - 5:13pm

Thank you. I will do that. and you are right. I have gotten the "baggage" out of the way so now I guess I can continute to work on me. But I am afraid that he will find someone else. 

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Wed, 07-09-2014 - 4:26pm

You find over and over on this board that what the poster thought wasa great relationship, ends with the man walking away cold turkey. So your situation is the the norm rather than the exception. He really does not care for you like you think he does. You are better off without him.