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I need some advice
| Thu, 07-02-2009 - 9:56am |
I need some advice ladies. I'm a SW with MM going on three years. In the beginning we would meet at my BF house, figured it would be ok bc her and current H started out in an A. Well that didn't last very long bc W kept wanting to tag along so we stopped meeting there. Sometime in Jan. BF found out her H was cheating, she changed alot after that. (I do understand why) but she became so toxic to me I had to step away for a while, She knew everything about Me and MM. Two weeks ago MM called me to let me know that he was taking his W over there for a visit and he couldn't get out of it because She had been bugging him for two years to go over there. I asked him in what world he thought that was a good Idea. Taking his W to the one person who knew everything about US. He said he was going to cancel but the next morning I got a txt that said everything went fine and there was no drama. I felt so betrayed. The only reason I could come up with is that maybe he wanted her to just tell his W everything. I just don't understand why he would take that kind of risk. I would be grateful for any advice as to how to deal with this.

I'm really not understanding. I figured out that BF must mean best friend and not boyfriend (if things could be interpreted differently you should probably spell it out and ditch the abbreviations). BUT why would your MM's wife be bugging him to go to YOUR best friend's house for two years?? What do they have to do with her, other than your best friend knowing about you and your MM? What connection is there between them? That could hold the key as to WHY he would bring his wife there - whatever relationship he has with your best friend that aroused his wife's curiosity or whatever.
Anyway your whole post is kind of hard to understand so hard for us to give advice...
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I'm sorry, Kinda freaking out. Yes BF is best friend. Let me see if I can clarify. 3 years ago we went there met there 3 times to watch Football. On the third time he said we couldn't meet there any more because W wanted to come along, actually asked him if he had girlfriend over there, so we stopped. MM, best friend and her husband and I all worked together at one point. As far as I know MM has not been to there house in over two years. Thats why I couldn't understand why two years down the road he would take his W right to the lions mouth. He said she has been bugging him for two years to go over there and he couldn't put it off any more. I keep thing I'm missing something. Because his story doesn't make any sense. As far as I know best friend has never talked to his W.
OK I understand a little better - your best friend and her H are co-workers (or were co-workers) of you and your MM. They invited him over for football, two years ago, and he went without his wife. She became suspicious of his visits there and wanted to tag along. Two years later, she still wants to go there even though he hasn't been over there in a long time - and he finally brings her.
It does seem strange. But maybe she just had this "feeling" about that place and wanted to calm her suspicions and go over there at least once. Maybe she bugged him to the point that he just wanted to do it and get it over with.
As for your best friend, even though she probably has a different outlook on cheating now, do you really think she would say something to your MM's wife? I'm thinking your MM really didn't think she would say anything. If she would say something, or you don't trust her anymore, is she really your best friend?
Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.
You've got a lot of choices. I
What you are missing is that his refusal to bring her along to these group house party sessions was probably