I need some advice and some help!

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Registered: 05-10-2004
I need some advice and some help!
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 2:21pm
I am new here.Well, how do I begin? I know that I am in having an affair but my lover who I have been seeing for 14 years, thinks differently? Yes, 14! How can I reverse this form of behavior. I am having major issues with him. I feel that it's all one sided. Over the years, I have asked him to meet me half way and his response is no, this is all I can give you. I have told him that I love him and he tells me that he has been honest with me from the beginning about his feelings. But after this long, why keep me hanging? There is so much to tell but basically I know what the answer is going to be .... chuck this guy to the side and move on. I am starting to realize it more and more each day. I think he can't come right out and say that he doesn't want to see me but is afraid to hurt me. What hurts is not seeing him as often as I would like. Lately, it has been two months. Last FRiday we spoke and I asked so when will I see you and he responded with not until August!!! I have given him the opportunity to break up with me that I can handle it but I get no response! This is so frustrating! Now is this a way for him to get out of this? This is unfair! He is never there for me at all when I need him. But of course when he comes up for air, I drop everything for him! I know this message sounds messed up! HELP!