I need some attention grabbing ideas

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2013
I need some attention grabbing ideas
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Mon, 12-23-2013 - 1:40am

I wrotre a post on here a about a month ago explaining the full story  [ Whats next,time is running ] and now another month has passed and pretty soon I will not see my friend again,even though its still December the Months are moving fast  and I would like to see her one or two times before I leave[none sexual]. I need some ideas on somethings that will knock her off her feet but not scare her off ,because she has remained stand offish the past number of months,I sent her a  nice calendar with her favorite activity on it ,I  have liked more pictures on her socail media page then I can count ,I sent her a nice birthday card with pictures of all the things she likes on it and now I sent her ananonymous e-card  with a great romantic quote,so only thing I can think of next is anonymous flower to her office,so Ladies any other Ideas. 

I know I should let this woman go,but she is stuck in my head  and it would be great just to hang out with her,but since she knows my wife and we have a few of the same friends she is keeping things very stand offish.I have done the anonymous things because I am afriad she will take me off her social media page if I am too up front again and that is all I have left of her.I know pretty soon I am going to have to just be honest again since time is running and face the consequnces,but I am putting that off.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 12-23-2013 - 8:31pm

Seriously, acting like a crazy stalker who won't take no for an answer is certainly not going to encourage this woman to see you again.  I think you have proposed seeing her & she said no, so respect her decision.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2013
Mon, 12-23-2013 - 10:49pm
If one anonymous card equals a crazy stalker then something is wrong.Let see crazy stalker calling/texting all the time,following the person,emailing all the time ect,me one card and maybe some flowers later on. and the term secret admire would be more like it. The other things she knew were from me.
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Community Leader
Registered: 11-04-2012
Tue, 12-24-2013 - 12:50pm

If I am being standoffish towards a person, any further attention-grabbing ideas from that person will only bring about a negative reaction from me.  I think this kinda holds true for most people.

I think it would be a good idea for you to let go and move on.

Clarity

Community Leader,

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2013
Tue, 12-24-2013 - 4:59pm
Thanks for your replies and I respect what you have to say,but with six months to go this is it and we still do communicate and with all the pictures I have liked on her social media page she has not kicked me to the curb yet.Life is to short to one day look back and ask if I did everything possible,because when I do leave I am 99 percent sure we will never see each other again. If anybody has any positive ideas please let me know.