I need some of that special magic again

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Registered: 03-05-2004
I need some of that special magic again
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 8:02pm
Ok,

I have been in NC for 8 days now ! I know for some of you that is not long but for me it seems like 8 months ! I am missing my man ! I want to... Need to ... Know that he still cares ! I just want to say ... Rain you have helped me very much to understand what could be going thru my mans head. It is very hard to know that my man could go about his business of everyday life and put thoughts of us completely out of his mind. I try very hard not to show how I hate for him to leave once he gets here to see me. My MM hates to see me cry ! I can't help my eyes get teary when he leaves. your right! It is probably too hard on him right now with all he is going through to deal with my emotional #*&# but I deserve some suport too. I am going through a very hard time with all this too ! By the way I had my last post as rainbow 2004 because the site wouldn't let me enter as trouble!

Got it straightened out now! If your around, "Julietsfate"," maybe your little "poof" of magic will work again !!! I know it did last time! LOL.. His kids are home on spring break from school so maybe that has something to do with the NC. Thanks for all your help getting me through my down times .
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Thu, 04-08-2004 - 2:50am
this is the 9th day! I am really praying for contact now! Everyone saying I need to express to MM how this abandonment is effecting me. Scared if I do that it will push him away more. I think this is almost emotional abuse. If we feel like we got to walk on eggshells around someone it is! God, Please give me the strength to get through this. My life has been full of giving. I need MM to start giving to me. Everyone knows at work about us and I am stuck with the questions of How it is going between us. How is MM doing? He used to work with me until they did job cuts and he was one of them that lost his job. I have so much of the stress put on me and it seems like he would think about the effects on me. This is a tangled mess. The only way I see any relief coming is if he would just bond with me through this. Not separate from me and make me go it alone! Help!

If he doesn't want me he should tell me! That way I can get out of this limbo and try to heal from a broken heart. Feel like used meat. Help! CRYING! gOT TO GO GET READY FOR WORK!
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 8:47am
Hi trouble, sorry to hear you're still in NC. Mine ended after 2 weeks. I know how hard it is. But I wasn't so bad this last time. I kept myself pretty busy and really didn't think about him alot. And when I did think about him, I thought, I know he will be in touch again and I'll see him soon. And so we did get together last week, it was great.

And when I really think about it, I know he's really busy and he does try to talk to me when he can. He owns a large company and I know even from where I work, the amount of meetings and crap you have each and every day.

I guess for him to usually be able to talk to me daily, and to come to my city to see me almost every week, that is a big chunk of time out of his really busy schedule.

I hope you hear from your guy soon. They just don't realize I guess at times, how it makes us feel to not hear from them. But just try to keep the faith!! I still believe the best route is for us to keep the NC until they break it. I don't think we should make ourselves too available or desparate seeming. I just give him the time he needs and trust my feeling that he will come back to me, and so far, he always has. Take care,

Dusty

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 9:00am
I'm in my 8th week of not seeing MM....6 days of NC and counting.

It's so hard to deal with NC of any kind...I could really use one of his bear hugs right now. Keep the faith...I'm trying to.

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Thu, 04-08-2004 - 9:13am
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Edited 4/24/2004 4:35 pm ET ET by julietsfate
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Thu, 04-08-2004 - 9:25am
Hi Noregrets, here's a big ((((hug))) for you. I've BTDT. 8-1/2 weeks I did not see or talk to him this past fall, it was brutal !! He had his reasons which he told me and apologized, and I accepted that and we've resumed our R.

Hope you're doing okay. I don't know what else to say except I hope for you all its over and soon. I know alot of women out there would say that's unacceptable to have such a long NC and take them back, but you have to be in our shoes to understand our reasons why. I hope you hear from your guy soon !!

Dusty
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Thu, 04-08-2004 - 11:38am
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Edited 4/24/2004 4:35 pm ET ET by julietsfate
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Thu, 04-08-2004 - 3:11pm
thanks big bunches! you are sweet! I will let you know as soon as it works!