I NEED SUPPORT OR ADVICE!!!

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Registered: 08-23-2003
I NEED SUPPORT OR ADVICE!!!
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Tue, 12-02-2003 - 9:23pm
I'm not sure how to feel. I cried because I was feeling sad.

My MM and I had been doing well, but the week of thanksgiving he got sick. He already had a load of work that week, but winded up staying home cause of it. He did email a couple of times while he ws at home, but then let 4 days pass w/o a call or even a email. He got back to work on monday and sent a quick email saying he missed me and also said he had a ton of work to do. I waited for his call cause he would call me on his way home, but there was no call.

This morning,tuesday, I sent him a email saying I was upset that he let so many days pass w/o a word as to let me know what was happening & that he should have called me on his way home. He sent a email back saying he knew I would be so he didn't call cause he didn't want to deal with it because he was still dealing with his illness, plus he has work and also has bills to pay and things are stressing him out, but that it had nothing to do with our relationship just that he's having trouble dealing with all that. I answered back saying I understood. Then he answered saying he would call on his way home cause he wanted to relax, but again he didn't call.

I miss hearing his voice on the phone. I feel sad cause we haven't talked on the phone. Except for a few emails in between, I haven't heard his voice in 12 days. I guess I don't understand why he can't just call me. Why would it be so hard to do? If it's not about our relationship then why hasn't he called me?

Am I making to big of a deal? Am I being overly sensitive?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 4:05pm
Hey sunshine, just hang in there and you'll be okay. You are getting emails from him, that's better than nothing. I know how hard NC is, I had about 8-1/2 weeks of it and it was horrible. I wanted nothing more than to contact him, but I waited for him to contact me. And then found out about work problems, health problems etc. Just try to have patience, do things to make yourself happy and give it time. If its meant to be, things will get back to normal. Mine is pretty well back to the way it was before. I had to believe in my heart that he would be back. And mine doesn't call me on the phone either, we only email, so to have NOTHING for so long, really hurt me.

Take care,

Dusty
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Registered: 08-23-2003
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 7:35pm
That's what I was thinking, at least, there is still the email. I wait for him to contact me too. It's just easier. I know I just have to hang in there. I know things will get back eventually. I miss him so very much it hurts.

I said I would leave him alone so he can catch his breath over there. Easier said then done, but I'm going to try.

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