I need your help!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2004
I need your help!!!
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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 4:52pm
I need help from all of my friends here on the boards.....

I am trying to not call or email my MM....I am usually the one who has to initiate phone calls and such because he is so busy. He never ever rushes off the phone and always sounds happy to hear from me and talks a while with me when we do get to talk, but I want to know how long it would take for him to realize..."hey, she hasn't called me in a few days." I just need some support and some suggestions as to what to do with myself in the meantime...... I guess we gals need to feel pursued sometimes, too. What do y'all think?

You gals are awesome and I love your fun and serious advice!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2004
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 5:34pm
Hold your ground - I am gonna say maybe a day or two max - how long has it been? just today? let us know what happens.

I do this occassionally with OM - and it usually takes him until about 10am before he notices that I haven't contacted him and we've both been in the same building for 2 hours. He's really busy when we first get here though - no this afternoon is a different story - he had a 2 hour meeting but now nothing - we'll just nod at each other when we walk out the door in 30 minutes - silly men...

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2004
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 6:22pm
Hang in there honey......everyone likes to be pursued. It may take a day or two (depends on what your relationship's like....but most likely he'll call or email. However, my advice is don't make it look too much like a game....And that you're with-holding calling on purpose just to "pay him back". Once he calls, just fill him in on all the fun things (busy, or interesting, or even boring things) you've been doing.

Call a girlfriend tonight and go out to dinner, or maybe a movie, or just have her come over for a glass of wine. All perfectly fine things to do to keep yourself busy and not get into any kind of trouble. OR.....read a really good romance novel or buy the new Cosmo and get some new ideas so that when ya'll get together you'll have some new tricks up your sleeve. If you truly like/love the Man....who calls won't turn into a big issue....but it is always good to let him know that you feel special when he calls. :)

Good luck!!!!!

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 12:31am

Hang in there hon... while these days it usually doesn't bother me either way... but I still do feel a need to know that he's missed me.


It used to take a day or two for MM to realise that I wasn't around... almost four years later! about 2 hours... half a day... maybe til the end of the day at max... just depending on how busy he is at work.


Usually he will notice by about 10am when he checks his email and will query where I am... but he maybe busy or have a meeting and of course hasn't checked hotmail.

Sweet
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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2004
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 7:29am
I haven't contacted him since Monday...and it's Wednesday morning now. I'll call him tomorrow if I've not heard anything from him by then (he has something important going on and I want to cheer him on tomorrow). Wine? Cosmo? Oh, girls, that is a great idea! And, don't worry....I will keep y'all posted.

HUGS to everyone!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2004
Fri, 02-27-2004 - 7:40am
Just wanted to let y'all know he called me on Wednesday (after two days), so needless to say I was a very happy girl! I love him so much! Thanks for all the support, girls!

(((HUGS))) to everyone!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 02-27-2004 - 10:38am
Hi NRY, glad to hear you heard from him!! I am also ending the workweek on a happy note as MM and I got together yesterday for our "special lunch", the hotel special if you know what I mean!! Wow, we're on a roll, this is two weeks in a row!!

Anyways, have a great weekend and glad you are happy again!! Take care,

Dusty
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