I need your input

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2003
I need your input
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Fri, 10-17-2003 - 11:32am
Hi all. I haven't been on the boards in a while, so here's some background: I'm M and have been in A with MM for 4 1/2 years now. Married 12 yrs (him 23 yrs), I am 34 he's 45. We work together (very nicely I might add!!)

Here's my question. Last night his W was looking over their phone bill. There were a lot of calls placed outside of their local calling area (which would be me). She was questioning him and finally called the phone company and asked for detailed billing for the last 3 months. I know my number will show up innumerable times. What do we do? What do I do when she calls my house and my H answers the phone?

I told him to try and intercept the bill when it comes, but that is only temporary because I'm sure she'll call for it again.

Any thoughts on our dilemma?

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 10-17-2003 - 12:04pm

I hope she doesn't call....


I gotta say, it's not looking good for you!


I guess if your husband answers the phone, he'll tell her that there must be some mistake. And surely your husband will ask you about it, and you can deny having any clue about it. But it does look very fishy, and it is a huge clue to both spouses that something unusual is going on!!


However, in the future he may consider either not calling you, or not calling from an account that his wife has access to!! Yipe!!!


Please keep us updated.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 10-17-2003 - 1:10pm
BUSTED!!!!

One rule we have is not to call each other's home unless it is a real work related emergency.

Laugh Smiles

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2003
Fri, 10-17-2003 - 1:45pm
well we don't have a home phone..we only use a cell. and om never calls me unless he gets the ok it is safe. i just erase his number from our cellphone.

and to solve the bill problem..first dh is way too busy with school and work to pay the bills, so i do. plus..i have the cell company email me to tell me my bill is available for viewing online...no paper bill to worry about. also..we have unlimited minutes on weekends and nights (in the u.s.), so that is the only time i call om.

now that om is in canada, he will call me more when dh isn't around. and i will sneak a phone card in the grocery basket.

been doing this for 5 years...haven't gotten caught yet...knock on wood!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2003
Sat, 10-18-2003 - 7:09am

Hi there,


Not really sure how to help you through this now... there is probably going to be a few questions raised... and it might be time to put in some damage control... maybe some no contact... you and MM are going to have to work through that together... always deny, deny, deny... if nothing can really be proved.


And if you make it through and plan on keeping things up... maybe a phone card would be the way to go... as far as I know they can't really be traced... you pay for the card and put the password when you make a call... and it is deducted from the amount and you top it up as you need.


I hope all goes ok for you and that no damage will be done... do keep us up to date.


luv and hugs

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