I really messed up

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Registered: 05-31-2007
I really messed up
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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 10:48am
Hi all - I really need some advice here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
In reply to: ivypow
Thu, 10-23-2008 - 10:27pm

Oh, come on...you're not going to tell me this is the first time you've ever had to apologize to someone, are you?


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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: ivypow
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 7:57am

ha ha ha...he may not accept it but oh well..then he can move on..lol lol..i know you are being pushy ...but it's cool....i should..if he doesn't accept it then okay he doesnt;

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: ivypow
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 9:05am

i just called and left a message apologizing for the outburst..

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
In reply to: ivypow
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 11:01am

:)



iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2007
In reply to: ivypow
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 12:49pm
I actually feel a little worse today! I can't seem to stop berating myself. I haven't heard from him since that night and I am torn between letting him contact me if he wants or if I should call and apologize AGAIN. I am a little concerned that if I call him he will be annoyed. I don't know what to do. I feel as though I may never see/hear from him again and I feel physically sick about it.
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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: ivypow
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 1:29pm

i am really really sorry that you are feeling this way...i really am...i am going through the same exact thing...but, i only called today to apologize..and didn't really do that...i just said i'm sorry that it came out the way it did..but it had to come out...i don't wish you to feel this way..because i feel the same way you do...i only started to cry yesterday evening and now the feeling is getting worse...my ap has not called me back at all and he might not, especially since i waited so long but, there would be good things that come from that....(smile-we'd both be doing the right thing)...i know that won't happen though because i'll call him again if he doesn't answer i'll wait and call the next day...now i'm at the point where i want to talk and things need to be said and i need to get some stuff off of my chest...and whatever happens happens....so be it...


i hope you start to feel better soon...don't let whether or not you talk to him be the determinant on whether you feel better or not...feel better on your own...you don't wanna be dependant on him to make you feel like you need to feel at any given time...i feel horrible because i waited so very very long to say i'm sorry about my outburst..but i aint sorry bout what i said..that's the truth....


mwahhhh (((HUGS)))....wish you could really feel that because you need it as well as i do...take care

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2007
In reply to: ivypow
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 1:58pm

A thought for you, tygerzize, it will be his greatness if he forgives you and your shallowness to not to be genuinely sorry.

If you believe " if someone truly loves you, they'll forgive you...may not forget but will forgive." then what does it say about those ( you ) who arent even sorry?? you dont truly love him. asking for forgiveness is a far cry !

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: ivypow
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 2:16pm
i am sorry that it came out in an outburst but, not sorry about what i said to him...i am sorry for how i acted but not sorry about what i say...i am sorry about the way i said it to him..but not sorry about what i said..i will contend that..and contend that my loves for him runs deep, real and true...don't pass judgement you do not know me....but thanks for your input..
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: ivypow
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 2:58pm
i didn't ask for his forgiveness either...i said if he truly loves me he will forgive me..if he doesn't that's something he choses not to do...i'm not begging his forgiveness at all...and would never....nor am i going to chase him..he's married not me...i am single..he entered this with the baggage not me..he chased me for this relationship...he has to deal with my reactions to how he treats me at times....he does treat me well but he's also human and can sometimes be a little off collar.....
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2007
In reply to: ivypow
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 3:18pm
Wow ! what an attitude !