awww don't say that...i'm hurt..just joking...but really i don't...you would have to know me..he did text me today...twice...he wanted to talk, finally ..i
Thank you for the support! Well, it is Saturday morning - the time when he ALWAYS calls because he knows I am at work. Needless to say - no call today. I guess he really doesn't want anything to do with me. Or I am being royally punished. Do I leave the ball in his court or do I call in a couple of days and apologize AGAIN? I just feel very hurt by his comment that I "don't care about anyone's situation but my own". That truly is not the case and I am so hurt that he would think that about me. What to do what to do.....
I totally feel your pain. I would call and/or plan on running into him so you can talk. Maybe he is just not able to call or something like that. Good luck
you are welcome..i don't want you to feel this way..i'm hurt by that because i'm only hurt in my own situation..however i've decided to end things with AP because i cannot and still have not figured out a way to handle my own business in my head with things...yes i love him very much and will remain in love with him forever but i'm giving up my fight....i figured why fight for it, he's married anyhow...yes i have my feelings for him and these emotions run deep..i have even been crying a lot and we run into one another at work but, still i've given up....i have no reason or any right to fight for our relationship...it's best for me to leave well enough alone...i guess he hasn't forgiven me and that's something he'll have to struggle with in his own head...he'll hurt because of it and after speaking with him briefly this morning about how to act in the workplace after this, i know he's still hurt...sometimes when you know someone you can just tell..when we are fighting or upset with one another he usually has the reigns and is businesslike and matter of fact..this morning he did not come off that way he was more soft spoken and just sounded upset about it..but, in my opinion he had made his decision last saturday night when he decided to leave me out there like that....so what's done is done...
don't feel bad about what's going on with your AP..just give it some time..you'll talk with him and he probably will come around...make sure he knows how you feel when you talk with him and try to listen to him and what he's saying about why he did what he did...that's all...my AP..well i just cant right now..ya know...and everyone's situation is different...
(btw yes, he's still talking with my son and everything that's been done before with that is...so i think that's a good thing)
i hope you do get some resolution and begin to feel better...have a good week....
(((HUGS)))--ps..don't let something that you've done that you might feel is dumb..ruin your relationship with him..if you think it's worth it then try to make it right....
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
Well - update. After I posted that he came by and asked me if I wanted a coffee. He usually hangs out but said he had to work. He gave me the coffee and said "Take Care". Now all I can do is analyze what he meant by "take Care" does that mean - have a nice life??!!! Who knows, haven't had the guts to contact him since then. Pathetic.
sorry to hear this...maybe he wanted to hear something from your lips...i wonder why he asked you to coffee..could be a good thing though..ya know..perhaps he wanted to say something but, decided to hold back what he wanted to say...and that could be a good thing...well at least he opened up the lines of communication by asking you to coffee..i really hope it turns out well for you because i don't want you to feel any anguish in this..i know how it hurts...
(((HUGS)))
ps..try getting up the guts and calling him....
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
Just popping in quickly to say, sounds a bit like my AP (or whatever it is he is)....at least in the respect that I can only call on his business phone. If he happens to be at home and I call in the evening, things are very short and abrupt and I know it is not a good time. So when I call him at work, he is generally in meetings..again, not a good time.
It is never a good time, in more ways than one, so guess it is time to cut the losses, huh...
no wait..don't drink and dial..that's not good..alcohol is never good in the equation unless you are planning a romp...oh lawd....have a clear head when you finally decide to get up the nerve to talk to him..
xap and i talked for 3 hours today..we got some things out in the open and i told him i absolutely did not want the affair because the last low cut me open like a knife and i was so heartbroken and hurt.
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awww don't say that...i'm hurt..just joking...but really i don't...you would have to know me..he did text me today...twice...he wanted to talk, finally ..i
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
you are welcome..i don't want you to feel this way..i'm hurt by that because i'm only hurt in my own situation..however i've decided to end things with AP because i cannot and still have not figured out a way to handle my own business in my head with things...yes i love him very much and will remain in love with him forever but i'm giving up my fight....i figured why fight for it, he's married anyhow...yes i have my feelings for him and these emotions run deep..i have even been crying a lot and we run into one another at work but, still i've given up....i have no reason or any right to fight for our relationship...it's best for me to leave well enough alone...i guess he hasn't forgiven me and that's something he'll have to struggle with in his own head...he'll hurt because of it and after speaking with him briefly this morning about how to act in the workplace after this, i know he's still hurt...sometimes when you know someone you can just tell..when we are fighting or upset with one another he usually has the reigns and is businesslike and matter of fact..this morning he did not come off that way he was more soft spoken and just sounded upset about it..but, in my opinion he had made his decision last saturday night when he decided to leave me out there like that....so what's done is done...
don't feel bad about what's going on with your AP..just give it some time..you'll talk with him and he probably will come around...make sure he knows how you feel when you talk with him and try to listen to him and what he's saying about why he did what he did...that's all...my AP..well i just cant right now..ya know...and everyone's situation is different...
(btw yes, he's still talking with my son and everything that's been done before with that is...so i think that's a good thing)
i hope you do get some resolution and begin to feel better...have a good week....
(((HUGS)))--ps..don't let something that you've done that you might feel is dumb..ruin your relationship with him..if you think it's worth it then try to make it right....
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
sorry to hear this...maybe he wanted to hear something from your lips...i wonder why he asked you to coffee..could be a good thing though..ya know..perhaps he wanted to say something but, decided to hold back what he wanted to say...and that could be a good thing...well at least he opened up the lines of communication by asking you to coffee..i really hope it turns out well for you because i don't want you to feel any anguish in this..i know how it hurts...
(((HUGS)))
ps..try getting up the guts and calling him....
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
Just popping in quickly to say, sounds a bit like my AP (or whatever it is he is)....at least in the respect that I can only call on his business phone. If he happens to be at home and I call in the evening, things are very short and abrupt and I know it is not a good time. So when I call him at work, he is generally in meetings..again, not a good time.
It is never a good time, in more ways than one, so guess it is time to cut the losses, huh...
no wait..don't drink and dial..that's not good..alcohol is never good in the equation unless you are planning a romp...oh lawd....have a clear head when you finally decide to get up the nerve to talk to him..
xap and i talked for 3 hours today..we got some things out in the open and i told him i absolutely did not want the affair because the last low cut me open like a knife and i was so heartbroken and hurt.
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
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