I really want this to be done!

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I really want this to be done!
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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 4:07pm

Ok this isn't the first time I've said this before (LOL) but I am really not having fun with A any more and it is hurting me more than it is pleasing me.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 4:27pm

You can do it!


You've got a good head on your shoulders, and sounds like a good plan for staying busy during that initial "withdrawal" phase.

anotherseyes

anotherseyes

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Registered: 07-12-2004
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 4:39pm

You can do it!!!!!

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Registered: 04-28-2010
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 4:42pm

You Can Do It!

I think if you fill your time up the with other things you have mentioned, at least it will distract you and thinking about him all of the time will become less of a habit.

I agree with AnotherEyes that you have a good head on your shoulders.

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Registered: 06-01-2010
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 5:06pm

You can do it Jane!! I agree that you have a good head on your shoulders and you are a smart woman.


I think you are also doing it the right way by slowly withdrawing ,that way it gives you time to heal and adjust. YOu know that it will be hard but by preparing yourself for this by making plans to keep busy I think it will make it easier.


Although I have found it hard the last few days to accept that my A may be over I have coped better than I thought I would.

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 7:42am

YOU CAN DO IT!!


We are right behind you 100%. You are fantastic and you deserve more! Go for it Smart Sexy Girl xx

You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 10-03-2007
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 7:45am
LOL ! It's a nice message but it took me aback for a moment-- all so bold and colourful :)
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Registered: 04-11-2010
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 7:52am
Yeah I may have overdone it a tad- just so exciting seeing someone with more balls than me. Im excited for Jane - she deserves more.
You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 10-03-2007
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 8:12am
I understand.BTDT myself.
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Registered: 05-29-2010
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 10:34am

You can TOTALLY do this Jane!

Some food for thought. You are totally on the right track with keeping busy and filling your time with other people. Do fun stuff with your DH, go out with your friends. Go to a bar with some girlfriends and enjoy the attention from other guys!

Remember that the pain you are in right now, at the beginning of pulling back, is the worst it will be. Each day and each week it will get a little better. I'm not saying it will go away, but you will at least be able to breathe and your heart will slowly stop feeling like it is breaking.

Also Jane, if you are interested in pursuing an A again in the future, you must remember that there ARE men out there also looking for an A who can meet your needs in the way your AP never could. You don't have to settle with an AP who hurts you because I can guarantee you there are better potential APs out there.

In A world, the world is your oyster!

Good luck Jane! We are here for you.

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Registered: 07-24-2009
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 4:29pm
Yay for you!!

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