I see his flaws but can’t leave him

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I see his flaws but can’t leave him
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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 7:02pm

Sometimes I wonder why I can’t end my A when I can name so many things I don’t like about my AP. At first I didn’t notice them, but now I see so many of them and still I want him, still go crazy when not with him. I really hope that some day all the things I don’t like about him will

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Sun, 06-20-2010 - 7:47pm

Since kimber and bird took a bite, figured I'd have a little nibble myself ;)


My feelings are slightly different, as my love for my H has greatly diminished over the years due to his treatment of me.

anotherseyes

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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 5:24am
Thanks all- couldnt have answered it better myself.
You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 8:04am
OH YES I see them everyday!
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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 9:48am

actually there is a saying if you are in love with someone & then fall in love with some one new , go for the second person because you never loved the first person . And I find this completely true.
agree ?


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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 10:40am

hmmm...never heard that saying, BUT I see your point, I think :)

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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 10:44am
I agree with hisKimber. It's often something inside of the person who cheats that causes their cheating. It often has nothing to do with the feelings they have for their spouse or S/O. In some cases, it IS the fact that they don't love their S/O "enough". But not in every case.

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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 12:49pm
anotherseyes , your's post certainly makes sense , as you clearly mentioned that for your husband it is just a love that we can have for our friends or faimly member & not the kind of love one can have for one's partner . But my question was about being in love as a partner.
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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 3:48pm
I have to confess that I have no personal idea how you can be "in love" with two different partners.

anotherseyes

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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 4:13pm

Hi Freedom,


My AP has flaws, flaws that my H has never had and never will and I surprise myself at how I continue to see this man knowing that I normally would never tolerate such things. For one he tends to be very insecure about his appearance, how he performs and it's odd to hear a man ask those questions especially when its usually females that do that. I'm crazy about him though. I love how sweet, thoughtful and fun he is but I know deep in my heart I can't see ever being with him.


Why do I torture myself? I guess I'm just waiting on one day waking up and I no longer have him in my heart and mind but not sure if that will happen anytime soon.


Wish you much love!

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 6:25pm

Hi Rayne,


I just spent 3 hours with my AP. I enjoyed these hours with him, but I didn't feel as