I think I am a sex addict-long

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Registered: 01-28-2010
I think I am a sex addict-long
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Thu, 01-28-2010 - 1:15pm

I didn't know where else to turn but here.

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Registered: 12-02-2009
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 3:23pm

Thanks for sharing your story.

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Registered: 01-30-2009
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 3:52pm

I see a lot of myself in you.

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 4:56pm

Thank you for your replies.

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Registered: 04-23-2007
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 8:27am
OK, here is the other side of the coin. Your behavior is not normal. I know you got a couple of women to side with you but I really honestly think you should seek help. I am not trying to be mean, but if you were really fulfilled within yourself you wouldn't need that many sexual partners. The fact that you didn't have sex with the guy who wanted sex only doesn't mean that you aren't a sex addict. Maybe it was just that by having sex with him you would really have to admit to yourself that you have a problem. you can get a lot of ppl to side with you because there are many ppl who suffer from sex/love addiction, but I am telling you that you really need to talk to a professional. I would also suggest that you talk to your H about this. It sounds like he wants a faithful W and you can't give him that. You are holding him in a M where he has no say so about what kind of partner he has because you are hiding who you are. You are only destroying yourself in the end and ultimately you will bring your family down with you. Seek help immediately this is not normal. If you want multiple sex partners get a partner who is on board with it with you.
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Registered: 11-16-2009
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 12:23pm
Hi Ashamed,
I too have had several affairs but have not put myself in danger as you have. I have wondered what might be the problem and found I have all the symptoms of a LOVE addict. There is a difference. Look it up online and see if maybe this is more what could be your problem.
I love my husband very much but years ago found out he cheated and it nearly destroyed me. There were other things I found out about his affairs which were very painful and although I've forgiven I've had a very hard time forgetting. There are reasons for why the way we are and I do agree seeking counseling would probably benefit you. I'm not quite the alarmist the last poster is but feel counseling in any of these situations where we find the crux of our problem is very beneficial. Cheating is the symptom, not the problem. Good Luck.
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Registered: 10-10-2008
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 11:23pm
IMAO and my psych prof DONOT TRY TO DO THIS BY YOURSELF! Does you story read like a sex addict? NO it does not. May I suggest a therapy session with a sex therapist with an MD. To my eyes your missive sounds like "love" problem. As all you mention "I fell Hard"? Not consistent with a "sex" addict. Again, a professional is what you need.
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Sat, 01-30-2010 - 1:19pm
One therapy session never does any harm, rather it will give you some direction and clarity.
(( HUGS ))
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Registered: 05-23-2011
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 8:27pm