I thought some things run men away

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2011
I thought some things run men away
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Mon, 12-10-2012 - 7:47pm

AP filed for divorce and then told me he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. I said ok well I'm not really to not just share with your W since I am still M. He of course didn't like that and we had a few heated conversations about it after that I thought our relationship would be over. but it's not. We talk everyday without fail. He has told me that he attempted to reconcile with W but finally decided it wasn't going to work out and that his family was trying to get him to get back with her. And that he felt bad because he doesn't want to get back with her. I have felt that he was right he wasn't ready for a relationship but I think his W has been holding up the divorce from being final because he filed the end of September and it's still not final and they have no minor kids. SO I have gone on with my life as normal but I really love him (AP) and really want to be with him. We have had a long term realtionship. We have known each other for 8 years and he has been my AP for 5 years in some form or another.( physically or emotional)  I told him that I wanted to be with him RL and I thought it would run him away but it has not????

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2009
Tue, 12-11-2012 - 8:22am

This is fascinating to me cause I expect my AP to be exactly like that. 

It's like he wants to be "free" but won't leave you.  Do you think he wants to date other women?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2011
Tue, 12-11-2012 - 9:05am
I think that he wants to be with me.He says he wants to be free but I don't think that is true he got mad at me for telling him to go and be free