I told him how i feel
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I told him how i feel
| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 9:43am |
I have been in a no strings reltionship for almost two years now. I felt myself having feelings for him. Friday I told him. His was good. I mean i did not expect to say he was leaving his wife or anything. He told me that he did not want to hurt me. He said that he does have feelings for me. He stated that he loves his wife. That really hurt. I know i should not hurt but i guess it does. So for how we have agreed to still see eachother for the time being. If it gets to the point that I cant handle it anymore or i find a relationship then i will leave. I just dont know how im felling at this point finally telling him. Monday we we see eachother. I dont know how im going to handle myself knowing we both have feels with eachother. I know im being stupid and should let go of this man. I love him so much. I know this is unhealthy. So tell me what you think?? What should i do. He may still run from me due to i have feelings now/???

If your feelings are love, then you should love. You deserve love, as do we all. After all, how often does love happen in this lifetime, really? Once? Twice? Why make yourself miserable about it. Another thought: isn't the human heart capable of loving more than one person, albeit differntly?
The bummer of this all is that he did not tell me what or if he feels anything for me....
i see...if he didn't tell you a return at that time, then ouch. You know, though, you expected him to return it when you said it. Yet, you probably already know he has feelings, too, or he'd have 'run.' Why not stick around awhile - it sounds like it will work out for you. hugs!
dd
MM and I have more of a friendship than true R. We have never been intimate but many would call it an emotional affair. Neither my H nor his W are aware of our times together (which consist of drinks after work or the occassional lunch) But an A none-the-less is an A.
My story is a long one and I won't bore you with it...the way I came to telling my MM how I felt was a by-product of something else I wanted to tell him. This all came out via a email. But as stated in my other post- he has not run away although I think things have changed a little between us. I have to believe that somewhere inside of him he has feelings for me otherwise this 'thing' we have, whatever it is, would have ceased. We have never discussed the email where I told him how I felt nor other serious things. We seem to just enjoy each other.
I'm not sure if I love him or if he fills a huge void in my soul.... which ever it is, I have felt the ups and downs of all of this for too long.
Let me know how things turn out... I'm thinking about you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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v.
Yes, A's are A's - in whatever form they take for us.
I think he must- after all, emails and time are indicative of
the same that you expressed...and he hasn't run, right?
He must be spending a ton of time thinking about you,
emailing, seeing you...time not spent elsewhere. This has
great meaning to those that do it. I believe he feels the same and
will express it soon; I have a good feeling about it! Hang in there- I understand totally!
We always return to those we love; don't worry...!!!!"
here's to hope!
:)
dd
However, I truly believe he does not, at least at this time, want to take this next step. The guilt would be a lot for him.
Ho hum.....
What's the latest on this???
Pls let me know.
v.