I want to be selfish
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I want to be selfish
| Mon, 12-29-2003 - 3:32am |
Hi, I'm new here. I've been married for 11 years to a wonderful man. I had an affair with someone I worked with a few months ago. Since then he hasn't been out of my mind.I want to see him again.I find myself thinking how life would be with him.As for my husband,he loves me dearly. Shows me all the love any woman would desire. Is a wonderful father to my 17 year old daughter. Provides everything I would need or want. But I find myself wanting to be with this other man. I know it would not be any relationship that would work out since we are both involved. I am completely obsessed with the thought of him. How does one get over this. I find myself trying to make plans to be with him again.

Any advice from anyone else regarding getting those thoughts out of your head and keeping it ended????
My MM is an old friend that I hadn't seen in 15 years, we ran into each other about 2 years ago and it was like electricity flying between us. It's funny, because we didn't date years ago, it just seemed so right place, right time, right now!
I would hate to hurt my H and my kids but I find is so hard not to think about my MM and want to be with him.
I guess I just want it all... to be selfish for once,not to be the wife or the mom but just be me and be wanted just for me.
Have a wonderful new year and the best for 2004
Happyagain38
The biggest irony is we go along our lives getting other people to fill all our needs. When in reality most women in this world are dying to give themselves what they crave from others. So give yourself some space and understanding. Go with the flow, seetie and take each day as it comes.
Hi neo and welcome aboard,
Sorry this reply is just a tad late... but due to being away on holidays... I'm doing a bit of catch up.
I'm been married now for somewhat 9 years... I've been with DH all up about 16 years... we now have two children 4 and 1 and I started my EMA going on for 4 years ago this year.
There was a lot missing in my marriage... but DH is slowly beginning to prove himself and he is a good man... wonderful husband who I know loves me with all his heart... and he is a fantastic father to our children.
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
These are the stages.
First your infatuated, excited, WOW !
then comes the sneaking around.
Then comes emotionally attached.
Then comes the ( OMG!..now what??)
Then comes the tears.
TOW