I want to sleep with a MM

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2003
I want to sleep with a MM
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Thu, 03-15-2012 - 12:44pm

I am a single 45 year old woman with a live in BF, but find I am so attracted to a 52 year old MM who comes into my work almost every day and I know he is totally attracted to me.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2011
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 4:40pm
Honestly, please don't do it....
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2010
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 5:04pm
I agree...
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2011
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 5:12pm
You only have to read this board to see the turmoil a lot of us are going through or have been through. I'm sure we all feel like that initially, hoping once the deed is done those weak kneed moments will stop. Unfortunately they rarely do...it intensifies everything.
It's up to you but, my advice, don't do it. I thought the same 14 months ago and am now in a situation where we can't seem to stop.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2003
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 5:19pm

I understand how wrong and probably stupid it is but he makes me just crazy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2011
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 5:59pm
Been there done that. I'm calling my BFF of 10+ yrs my AP now because of that. I don't regert that I started to sleep with him, I regret the fact that how much I'm consumed by it/him. No matter how much I try to think this is just an affiar... but I'm still soooooo into it. Got even more attached to him after IC. I think only from my side. What does he have to lose? He's got another woman waiting for him. She has it all, I just get the dust of what she has.
Girlfriend, its not that 1 time sleeping with a MM, you will get addicted to him.... sorry if I'm harsh or not making any sense.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2003
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 6:07pm

No that makes perfect sense.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2011
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 9:35pm
Please don't do it. I'm a MM in an A with a MM for over a year now. It started off that it was just a sex thing. We had ground rules. Eventually feelings get in the way. The same thing has happened for most of the women on here. Usually the feelings are stronger on the woman's side. We start off saying we don't have expectations, then you develop expectations. A year later you may find yourself posting about how to end the affair but find you're so addicted that you can't end. Read the EAS board and all of the stories of the women who thought it would be just sex and are having so much trouble ending the A. Well you can also read this bored and all of the frustrations that come with being in an affair. Trust us, it won't happen only one or two times. I wish I had found this board before entering my a. I like to think that I wouldn't have walked this path had I read these boards first. Good luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2003
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 8:02am

I thank all of you for your opinions it has definately made me think.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2010
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 8:06am
Go back on these boards and read read read, all of us thought ground rules, pure sex, just for fun, I'll never want more from him....and it goes on and on. Affairs change you, there is no where for them to go. Nature wants a relationship to progress, there is no progress on an affair. You will find things about your BF that bother you, you will begin nit pick those things apart. You will compare him to your AP. Oh, not in the beginning, in the beginning it is all sunshine and stars. Your BF will notice a change in you, he may not be able to pin point the change, but in the back of his mind he will notice. Affairs have a cycle and sadly and end date. Not many affairs end on a positive mark. Believe me, I use to argue on these very boards. My affair was different, people just didn't understand, truth was....I was just in a different cycle of the pattern then they were.
I wish we could help you change your mind. But the odds of that are slim. Have your affair, be careful, if your co-workers see, they will notice the change, affairs are hard to hide. Some people think it is their duty to out you. Make sure you are truly willing to risk your relationship with your BF.
If he comes to your work place daily, are you prepared for how it will be after the affair ends? Seeing him daily? Work place affairs are the hardest to end because letting go of contact is impossible.
I wish you luck, if you go for it, enjoy it, keep it simple and in perspective. Sorry if my post reflects Debbie downed, I am being realistic for you. Best wishes!
~Sunny~
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2010
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 9:01am
Hi 2real4u, I agree with all the other posters. Please don't do it. Don't open Pandora's box because the contents that you will find will not be pretty. I think we all have said "its just a sex thing" I know I said it & I stayed caught up for a while. It's addicting, you get this intoxicating high that you have never experienced before & like a drug addict you will crave it more & more until it consumes you. I never knew you could be addicted to a person until I entered an affair. Please think long & hard about this, it's not for the weak hearted.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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