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I was wondering
| Fri, 02-06-2004 - 12:50pm |
How does the MM feel when he has to go home to his wife and have sex with her after he had great passionate sex with me .
I don't mean right after , even if it is a day or week or more after .
Does he feel guilty ? Or maybe it doesn't bother him at all ? Does he feel board with the wife ( because the sex is maybe routine ) is he thinking about his A ( me ) while 'doing it" with the w ..............what other thoughts and feelings can go through the MM head ? If any MM out there please answer .
I don't mean right after , even if it is a day or week or more after .
Does he feel guilty ? Or maybe it doesn't bother him at all ? Does he feel board with the wife ( because the sex is maybe routine ) is he thinking about his A ( me ) while 'doing it" with the w ..............what other thoughts and feelings can go through the MM head ? If any MM out there please answer .
And also you ladies how do you face your H after you have been with your A .

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CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
Although he's asked me before, if I had sex at home the night before I was supposed to see him, would I still want to see him? I said "you betcha". He's the best.
My H is not interested in that anyways. Our last time together was on Xmas and before that, it was the summertime. Only one time, was I with MM in the afternoon and then H wanted to have sex that night. I did it, although I felt a little weird about it.
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
I have great feelings for this man. We are very good friends.
I can honestly tell you that I had only been w/ my h 2 times since it started.
I was thinking of my h not the other man.
Because it is so different. So very!!!!!
I love my husband but we just do not get alone
I have 2 children w/ him I am 32 and feel like I am waisting my life away.
This other man makes me so happy. But he doesn't want anything serious he's in the middle of a nasty divorse. jj Maybe you could give me advice
BWE
*BWE*
I did not achieve this position in life by having some snot-nosed punk leave my cheese out in the wind. ~Ed Rooney
I have been through this . I was 25 with one kid and not happy at all ( well my ex abused me physically I wasn't about to put up with that ) so I left . Now I am 40 although still single but very happy . Divorcing my ex was the best thing I have ever done .
One thing I don't completely understand . You say you love your husband but you don't get along . Then what type of love is that ?
Also I notice many say - I have a great marriage or I am happily married......... Well how can the marriage be great/happy if your having an A . If your having an A that means something is missing in the marriage. For me that means the marriage isn't that great/happy after all .
Maybe my opinion of a great marriage is to have it all and that is why I am still single because I can't find the one that has it all.
If sex and passion is important to you , then how can the M be great if you are lacking it ?? Or I don't know maybe there is something I don't see here , any opinions ??
Edited 2/6/2004 7:25:29 PM ET by viperdiva
Edited 2/6/2004 8:07:54 PM ET by viperdiva
xoxo ViperDiva
life isn't easy and right know I do as I please and my h doesn't mind that I go out. And I have money nice house drive a 40grand truck kids are in a wonderful school district
I feel selfish if I leave. Just because I am not happy W/ my sex life.
But I feel selfish having a affair. I would not really want this other M I love everything about him, but I know in my heart I would need more then he could offer on a different level. I have been married 9 years and this is the first time I did anything like this. I could count on one hand how meny OOOOO's I had in this marrige But I was so young going in I did not even know w/ a org was As I get older I feel my self changing I want more out of Life but $$$ wise I amgood to go.
He would never put his hands on me never. Will give me anything or do anything 4 me except change when it comes to sex and complments I am 5'7 127lbs blond hair blue eyes I get picked up by high school kids I mean I know I'm not ugly or fat or anything like that I am a good mother W/ more does he want. YES I tryed counciling nothing worked.
Well thanks any more info would help.
I thought guys will have an A because they aren't getting enough sex at home ;-)
My MM said to me if he was getting what he wanted at home he would have never would look for something outside the M .
Did your H know that you knew he was having an A ?
and if he came home horny the OW probably wasn't that good LOL LOL
Cause I make sure my MM is "spent" !!! ;-)
xoxo ViperDiva
Women for the financial security . Men well because "it is cheaper to keep her"
I think that is kind of sad , but that is probably why most people are unhappy in their M . Because they married for the wrong reasons .
My MM said he doesn't want to D his wife although he isn't happy because then he would have to give up his million dollar home .
My take on that is don't you prefer to live in half a million dollar home happy ,rather then in a million dollar home but unhappy .
Well some people may nor may not .It is a matter of what is more important for you.
Security or great sex .
Your H sounds like a good guy . He fulfills all your needs but sex . If you went to counseling I am wondering why is it that he isn't interested in sex ? is he much older then you ? Was he into the sex before the marriage , before you had kids ?
I think if you tried to make it work with him in the sex department and he still isn't interested then you don't have to feel guilty about having an A .
You are a women , you have your needs . You want to feel loved , sexy and desired and if he doesn't understand that he needs to give that to you then he shouldn't be surprised you will be looking for it elsewhere .
Like I am always blown away by wives who get so mad when they find out their H is having an A .
She has sex with the H maybe once a year if even that ......well what does she think her H is going years and years and years with no sex ......yeah right .
There is no really right or wrong answer . I guess you just have to do what feels right for you .
My take on life is that life is too short and I do things that make me happy , even if others feel I shouldn't do it .
Like my friends think it is wrong to be with a MM . Well if it isn't me , it will be someone else , so it might as well be me , ;-)
The sex I have with my MM is the best I ever had !!
But I feel it is right because I don't have a H or BF . The day I do have a H or BF this A will be over .
So what about the MM's W ?? ............ well that is her problem if she would put more effort into their sex life he wouldn't be with me in the first place . She doesn't want him in that way or she would have sex with him . She is happy raising the kid and having an H who provides her with a beautiful home , nice car , credit cards and a very comfortable life ..............Actually I feel sorry for MM , he works so hard and what does he get in return ? nothing but a boring life , work , home , play with kid , more work and goes to bed just to wake up and do that all over again . How sad ;-(
xoxo ViperDiva
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