i was wondering how he can

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Registered: 06-08-2007
i was wondering how he can
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Mon, 01-05-2009 - 11:22am
go to therapy along with his wife once a week and still talk to me. also how he can even want to help me out and go to therapy. it seems like a conflict, i was wondering if any one else has dealt with this. we are friends, maybe that's how he can deal with it.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 01-05-2009 - 7:02pm
right now we are emailing back and forth. tons of contact.
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Registered: 12-24-2008
Mon, 01-05-2009 - 10:32pm
Perhaps it's his wife he is APPEASING..you know, go along with what she wants to keep peace at home until he decides what he really wants. Just a thought.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 5:31am
I think the therapy is to keep peace in his home. Its probably also to help with dealing in his marriage.he says its helping. In talking with him last night, he says at times he has to remind him self in his mind not to let himdelf cross the line emotionally, it could be disastorous to his life. Then take a look, step back. We can become consumed with one another. We have. I told him sometimes I feel lonely. He says we can only do what we can. There's not much he can do.when he has stepped back, he has felt that void and loneliness. I told him he's my best friend. He has a lot of control and he's strong willed. He keeps me straight. I'm much weaker then him. With his will power and level head we can keep us as remaining friends. Not crossing that line again.we won't cross it.

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