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I was wondering
| Fri, 02-06-2004 - 12:50pm |
How does the MM feel when he has to go home to his wife and have sex with her after he had great passionate sex with me .
I don't mean right after , even if it is a day or week or more after .
Does he feel guilty ? Or maybe it doesn't bother him at all ? Does he feel board with the wife ( because the sex is maybe routine ) is he thinking about his A ( me ) while 'doing it" with the w ..............what other thoughts and feelings can go through the MM head ? If any MM out there please answer .
I don't mean right after , even if it is a day or week or more after .
Does he feel guilty ? Or maybe it doesn't bother him at all ? Does he feel board with the wife ( because the sex is maybe routine ) is he thinking about his A ( me ) while 'doing it" with the w ..............what other thoughts and feelings can go through the MM head ? If any MM out there please answer .
And also you ladies how do you face your H after you have been with your A .

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And same story here, he gives them a great life, lots of cars, money, vacations. And what does she give him? I have no idea but its not sex.
He seems to be okay with it though. He says "nothing is perfect but I have a nice family". And if she ever found out, he thinks she would D him. Well like you said, what do they expect?? When you don't give any sexual attention to your spouse?
Like my H, busy working, likes to drink. And apparently does not like sex much. I can count on one hand (that's right, less than 5) times we did it last year.
So Ihave to do what I have to and get what I need. Which is a fantastic sexual relationship with a man who really cares about making me happy that way. It's enough for me right now anyways. I don't expect him to leave his W, and I don't plan on leaving my H either.
Dusty
>>>>I thought guys will have an A because they aren't getting enough sex at home ;-)
My MM said to me if he was getting what he wanted at home he would have never would look for something outside the M . <<<<<
This was kind of the point I was trying to make. That point is that MM will tell the OW that there is no sex at home, or its boring, the wife is frigid, or uninterested, etc. when many times that is not true at all. We wives can be just as fun, exciting, and sexy as the next gal. Sometimes it has nothing to do with how active his sex life is at home. It can be very active, which has always been our case. My H didnt have an A because sex was lacking at home, he simply had always found the OW very attractive(she was my best friend), she was willing, and viola, instant A.
>>>>My MM said to me if he was getting what he wanted at home he would have never would look for something outside the M .<<<<
This was not my H's excuse for the A. If anything I am the more sexually adventurous of the two of us. Which was just one of the many reasons why I couldnt understand his having an A, because I have never been one to deny, and Im usually the one to initiate.
>>>>Did your H know that you knew he was having an A ? <<<<<
Yep! Even after I found out about it I tolerated it for almost a year. He wants an open marriage. I even had a ONS at one point. But it got to the point where the thought of him and OW was just too much for me to handle. It has since ended.
>>>>and if he came home horny the OW probably wasn't that good LOL LOL <<<<
Oh Im sure she did just swell. Variety, ya know, the spice of life. But she only had him two or three times a month(shes married too), I had him every night. I could say that she was lucky he still had enough energy for her...
>>>Cause I make sure my MM is "spent" !!! ;-)<<<<
Yeah, me too...
You were wondering how husbands felt, and I was just letting you know how mine did...
BWE
*BWE*
I did not achieve this position in life by having some snot-nosed punk leave my cheese out in the wind. ~Ed Rooney
Was wondering if really all men who have A's is because no sex at home . ( because all the ones I meet say no sex is the reason )
Well I guess not !! LOL LOL
And some best friend ;-(
That really pisses me off when guys do get it at home , but still want variety . Because in my opinion if variety is what they want they shouldn't get married in the first place OR they should be sure to marry someone who is willing to have an open marriage .
How dare he think he can have his cake and leave it whole !!
So do you worry he will have another A , and if he did would you still put up with it ?
xoxo ViperDiva
Oh no problem...anytime!
>>>Was wondering if really all men who have A's is because no sex at home . ( because all the ones I meet say no sex is the reason )
Well I guess not !! LOL LOL <<<<
Oh Im sure that some do have A's for that reason, but certainly not all. I would bet that most of the time a person has an A, not because of problems in the M, but simply because they find another person attractive, chemistry, etc. But hey, Im no expert, I only know the reasons why my own H did.
>>>>And some best friend ;-( <<<<
Yeah, no kidding, huh? She and I have remained friends, however, just not as close. She knew that I knew. I was kind of living in this bazarre world for a while, knowing it was going on, trying to pretend it wasnt. It eventually took its toll. I could see my personality changing, I was losing my "spark". I often wondered how it would have been had it been her H and myself having the A. She seemed to take it for granted that I was tolerant and understanding, trying to be open minded. I wonder if she would have granted me the same. Who knows?...
>>>That really pisses me off when guys do get it at home , but still want variety <<<
LOL! Yeah me too...hehe..
>>>Because in my opinion if variety is what they want they shouldn't get married in the first place OR they should be sure to marry someone who is willing to have an open marriage <<<<
Agreed!
>>>How dare he think he can have his cake and leave it whole !! <<<<
I think that you are the first person I have ever seen get this quote right! It is "eat your cake and have it too". People always get it backwards.
>>>So do you worry he will have another A , and if he did would you still put up with it ?<<<
He very well could I suppose, although I think that if it were going to happen he would discuss it with me. Only because, as I stated, he wants an open marriage and is trying like gang busters to talk me into it. But if he were to have another one and lie, sneak, and deceive, after all we've been through this past year, I probably wouldnt stick around. Ive been a pretty cool wife, but one can only take so much, ya know?
BWE
*BWE*
I did not achieve this position in life by having some snot-nosed punk leave my cheese out in the wind. ~Ed Rooney
>>>I think that you are the first person I have ever seen get this quote right! It is "eat your cake and have it too". People always get it backwards.<<<<
Please excuse me I have only been speaking English for 8 years . My first language is Hebrew . So when using the quote I translated it from how we say it in Israel .
So do you mean that here in the US you say - "eat your cake and have it too" ??
Thanks for correcting me .for that is the only way I can learn English and all these type of quotes .
You are a WAY to cool of a wife and friend . Because I don't think I could ever talk to my best friend again if she slept with my H or BF or even with my MM ;-)
I hope your H treats you right ! You deserve only the best !!!
Edited 2/8/2004 12:32:56 AM ET by viperdiva
xoxo ViperDiva
Yeah...This is the correct term. Because you cannot, in fact, eat your cake, and yet still have it. But most people,incorrectly, say "have your cake and eat it too". Which is backwards, because you can have your cake, and then eat it, but then its gone. I congratulate you on learning the English language, it must be terribly confusing. Too many rules, spellings, meanings, and pronunciations.
>>>Thanks for correcting me .for that is the only way I can learn English and all these type of quotes .<<<<
I didnt correct you, you had it absolutely right!
>>>You are a WAY to cool of a wife and friend . Because I don't think I could ever talk to my best friend again if she slept with my H or BF or even with my MM ;-)
I hope your H treats you right ! You deserve only the best !!!<<<
Thanks Viperdiva...I hope he does too...
Nice chatting with you...
BWE
*BWE*
I did not achieve this position in life by having some snot-nosed punk leave my cheese out in the wind. ~Ed Rooney
I have quite a few male friends who are married . and yes the R I have with them is strictly plutonic ( is that the right word ? ;-) ) . They tell me exactly what goes on at home and they have no reason to lie to me about it . They have never had an A , because they are faithful . But that doesn't mean they don't have friends like me who they can complain to about their non sex life !
I am not saying my MM cares so much about me , but he must feel something for me . He is not a cold hearted person . when we do talk he always wants to make sure I am doing ok and that I don't work too much . and if I was just a game for his sh**s and giggles why would he ask me questions about me and my life wanting to get to know me better ....... he can just f**k and go .
I was just wondering if a man feels any guilt feelings when he does has sex with his W . Since my M friends don't cheat I never could get that answer .
But of course there are all types of people . In the mean time the few people I know that had A's in their lives did end up with the OW .
My best friend is now dating a guy who left his wife for her .
My best friends Dad had an A with a women he is now with . and they have been now together for 20 years .
So sometimes it can be real .
xoxo ViperDiva
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