I woke at 4 with this on my mind

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Registered: 10-24-2003
I woke at 4 with this on my mind
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Sat, 12-06-2003 - 4:47am
I have been reading this board for about a month, before I took a chance to post here. Most the the EMA's I read about sound active - most you hear from you OM/MM two or three times a week. Meet for lunch then itimate time once a week. I think that is wonderful!

For me, I'm no longer certain what my A is about, especially to my MM. Monday, he called and just about begged me to meet him for coffee after work, I agreed but said I could only stay for 30 minutes tops, I had to get home. When I got there he was waiting in the parking lot, walked up to me and said 'God I've missed you so much. Wish I could kiss you right here.' We ordered our coffee and sat down. He said again how much he missed me and how wonderful I looked. It felt good to hear this, and I thought he was sincere. Half way through the meeting he said, "I have to go out of down this week to deal with this potential customer we have been trying to land, but when I get back, I promise we can meet for dinner. How about Wednesday, I have already made an excuse why I will be coming home late." I said "great I would enjoy that". SHortly after that, I noticed the time and said I had to get going.

Since Monday, I haven't heard a word from him; no call, no email nothing. He returned last night, so I did't expect him to walk in his house at 8 and hope on line. But it occured to me, that since we were intimate almost a month ago, I have only see him for this coffee. Granted he was away over Thanksgiving and I did get a one line email that said "I miss you hope you had a good Thanksgiving", and then gone for work this week. But it's more then not meeting. There have only been two quick phone calls. Calls less then five minutes, and he has been on line once for 20 minutes.

In the beginning, he was on line every night and would call two or three times a week. The calls were short, usually made going to or from work. Also we would meet once a week for coffee or dinner.

What is going on here? I can't believe he is so busy that he can't contact me. I think I'm pretty level headed and not easily fooled, so when we met and he said he missed me, he really sounded like it. He talked about having me on his mind every night when he goes to sleep and first thing when he wakes. So if I'm on his mind so much, why is it I don't hear from him.

Right now I'm pretty disgusted, and really not interested in telling myself "This customer is very important, he need to get this business, he IS M after all with a DD and DS". Why do we always make excuses for them. But more importantly, what do you think is going on with him.

I badly want to bring this up during the dinner, but we haven't spend any time together in almost a month, and don't want to spoil it.

Advise??

They say actions speak louder then words. I can understand he has been busy, aren't we all

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2003
Sat, 12-06-2003 - 9:01am
Gosh, I wish I has some grand words of wisdom for you. I certainly know how you feel and it can be frustrating, though I'm sure that he IS thinking about you as he says. Maybe he's toiling with the angel/devil on his shoulders. The holidays seem especially hard in that aspect. I personally wouldn't say anything unless he brings it up (and he just might) but that is not everyone's style.

I wish I had more for you but I do hope the best and please keep us up-to-date!

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Sat, 12-06-2003 - 5:00pm
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Edited 3/10/2004 4:57 pm ET ET by geek_chic