i wonder how much AP friend knows.

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i wonder how much AP friend knows.
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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 9:48am
it's also his former co-worker. when AP and i do get together about once a week, AP will stop at his old job. either i will call him and let him know i'm free or he'll call me to let me know he's there and come over. this is his friends work phone that we use and his place of work. sometimes i wonder how much he knows. AP says he doesn't know really anything except that we are friends, because i've asked him. he's gotta say hey #### what's going on. last week we both came back in his car and his other friend was also there to. so both of his friends seen us coming back together. AP says he likes to keep things to himself. i hope so only because some where's some day maybe one of them could slip something in front of his wife since they both also hang out at his home once in a while. i know he trusts them both, other wise AP wouldn't be with me in front of them at all. i think it makes him feel special and important, and maybe pretty attractive.

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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 10:49am

Even if they don't know for sure, they surely do suspect (strongly) I'm sure.

I would also worry about my H hearing something if I were you. IF they know your name, for instance, and they're talking to some other friends of theirs about their suspicions, and one of their other friends knows your H or knows someone who knows your H... (you know how they say everyone knows everyone if you dig six degrees into it - I might know a friend of a sister of a friend of a cousin of the lawyer who handles Tom Cruise's personal lawyering needs for instance LOL)

Anyway I would worry more about that than them slipping in front of his wife. I'm sure they would make an effort NOT to do that. But to speculate with their other friends, that's not so hard to imagine.

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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 10:57am
In my opinion, his friends know what is going on. If he hasn't told them they have figured it out. they maybe only guessing as to how far you two are going but men have a good imagination just like woman and will talk among themselves just like we do. I have only recently found out what c0-workers were saying about me and AP (we work together) and the only thing they have seen is us coming to and from work in the same car. Yes they are grasping at straws but the thing is THEY ARE RIGHT
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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 11:05am
all 3 of them have known each other for about 12 years or so, so that's how i know he trusts them. as far as my husband, they don't even hang out in the same circles. since my AP was laid off, now is when his former co-worker has seen us the most together. AP and i actually hang out with him. i've hung out with AP and his other friend a couple of times. sometimes AP will have his former co-worker call me to tell me something that AP wanted to tell me. it's a difficult situation. i feel like the poor guy is in the middle.
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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 11:10am
he says he hasn't told them, only that we are good friends. sometimes i wonder. talking too much is what can get you in trouble. i know he trusts these 2 though.
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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 1:35pm

You've asked this question here a hundred times already..... C'mon get real, those friends know!!! Just be glad it hadn't reached his W and your H yet. Otherwise, you two will know what pain you both have created not only to yourselves but to your love ones too.

Are you looking to validate your R with this guy by hoping his friends know about you? Well, rest assured. "THEY KNOW". They probably have enough respect and compassion for his W not to spill the beans....

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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 3:17pm
i guess maybe i am . i know it didn't bother my AP at all last winter when his co-worker seen us together back then, and now we all hang out together, but i wonder how much he really knows. his other friend has seen us together and i've talked to him a couple of times. my AP has said he's told them we are just friends. i'm wondering.
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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 4:08pm

OH, Im sure they at least suspect something anyways.


My ap has a good friend that he hangs out with some...I kinda think that he knows something but IM not real sure.


We have never been caught or seen together, but I wonder how much my ap talks to his friend.

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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 5:10pm

YES, they KNOW. Does it make you feel he cares about you more that he flaunts you in front of them? Hope not, because it doesn't necessarily mean that.

They aren't stupid, they KNOW. Its pretty obvious you're more than friends since it is intentionally not talked about openly.

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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 5:39pm

I agree...maybe he is showing her off in away that is really an insult, like look who I am banging Guys are like that. Who knows what is said behind this OP's back,,She could be seen as a joke. At the very least, they know
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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 7:03pm
he doesn't show me off. we have been seen together, but he doesn't flaunt it.

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