I wonder if I'm onto something here?

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Registered: 06-15-2007
I wonder if I'm onto something here?
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Sun, 11-16-2008 - 2:47pm

How many of you who are in an A have lost a parent when you were in your teens or even now if your older?


Were you really close to that parent (Best friends)?

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Registered: 10-18-2008
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 3:00pm

Hi Laura,


I am no longer in my affair but your question interested me.

 

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Registered: 11-02-2008
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 3:00pm

Hmmm. Well, both of my parents are still living but what's interesting is I finally figured out a few years ago that when I was young, around 6,7,8 years old, my dad was having an affair with a woman he worked with. I'm beginning to think that may be part of the reason I am the way I am, and it makes me worry about what I am teaching my own children.


As far as you just wanting a text or email buddy, have you tried joining a social group such as myspace or facebook? I have made some connections there whom I consider good friends, but I would never meet them in real life. Just something to consider!

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Registered: 01-10-2007
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 3:24pm
Both of my parents are living but I only lived w/them both until I was 3. Then they divorced & I lived w/my dad & grandparents. I don't really know that there is any correlation. I have found so many situations bring on an A. Some people are married a year when an A starts, others 25 years. Some w/kids, others w/o kids. I have a very good friend who has an open relationship w/her DH & both came from non divorced families where all parents are still alive. No strange upbringing of any sort. The only thing 'off' is that her DH's mother is an alcoholic--so is mine. Maybe there is something to be said about there being something 'off' in your childhood bringing on an A as an adult. Like a death, divorce, abuse, alcoholism, drug abuse, etc. I don't know... It's been 12 years since my A started & I still can't figure it out!
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 3:56pm

I think you are onto something.


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Registered: 02-09-2008
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 6:02pm

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Edited 11/23/2008 9:01 pm ET by pisces2008
pisces
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Registered: 09-05-2008
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 11:29pm
Hmm...very interesting question.
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 12:14am

Hi Pisces :)


I know, I know...sometimes our choices have nothing to do with our upbringing...it was just mentioned among the myriad of reasons we can go off the beam.


But this thread has got me thinking.