I'd thought highly of this board...but..

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Registered: 01-05-2009
I'd thought highly of this board...but..
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Tue, 01-06-2009 - 4:22pm

…now, I’m not sure of it.


Some years ago, I was a frequent visitor here, even though I wasn’t involved with AP. I found it interesting and enlightening of people’s trials and errors in the name of love. That is why this board exists. One woman had lost her AP because he wouldn’t acknowledge all the things he’d said to her whilst he was having his “fun” with her. When the jig was up, and his wife found out, he dropped this woman like she was a leper. Her entire life was washed out. She’d given up home (because her AP was also her boss, and the discovery touched every facet of her life), she lost her dignity (because she believed he loved her, but he capped it off by telling everyone she was just for sex), she lost her entire life. Children included. She came here, and her words were about suicide and mistakes, but also of still loving him. And she did. Several of us during the time made her our “sister”. Kept her from fulfilling her dying wish, consoled her through days of having to rebuild her life. I’d always thought highly of this board, but now.


I’ve been gone from here for some time, just to revisit for bit from time to time to see that all is the same. This board is for support. For those who are trapped in loving someone, whilst lamenting their circumstances which keeps them from living the life that they’d truly love to. To a large degree, that is the truth of this board. Why it exists. Everyone here has a lamentation. Take a look at he posts. There isn’t a clinical psychologist out there who wouldn’t deem most people here, certifiable. There isn’t a Christian out here who wouldn’t have the harshest of criticism of the “sins” here. There isn’t a H or W who’s lives are affected by the people here that would give a rat’s patootie for the crying and lamenting of those here. However, the people here are human. Theirs is life. If what I have written and posted on this board is that of a madman, then what does that make the rest of the people here?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-17-2008
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 6:59pm

Forgive my confusion, but what exactly are you trying to say???

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2006
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 10:07pm
Okay so that all being said and done, why not explain why you no longer think highly of this board? And why do you visit a board like this when you are not in an A? Maybe we're all certifiable but you seem to have too much time on your hands.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 10:32pm
uhm okay and your point is what?

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2004
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 11:49pm
Im not trying to be rude, but what exactly is your point?
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2008
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 12:07am
I agree with all of you responding, I was confused too by the orig. post. I thought I misread something but apparently I did not.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2006
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 9:31am
Well i was confused to but quite frankly at this point don't care.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2004
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 12:46pm
That is funny!
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 2:00pm

Read your earlier post and responses so I understand a bit better where this is coming from...all I can say about that one is whew...wouldn't begin to try answering that because I don't have time to give it the thought it deserves.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 2:05pm

Hi Secret (waving wildly over here!!)


You stated everything I was thinking beautifully - and so to the OP and others I simply say.......


What Secret said -

lightning in my heart

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2005
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 3:07pm

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i understand what you are saying. If we went anywhere else and asked anyone else IRL, we would get the "boo hiss" because affairs are just black-and-white wrong. but the people who post here are "trapped in loving someone, whilst lamenting their circumstances which keeps them from living the life that they’d truly love to" - yet we are human and not villains, they live in the gray. And this is the one place we can live in the gray - the reason the board exists.

i get it.
Mrs.

PS my T doesn't think i'm certifiable - she thinks I'm coping.

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