I'd thought highly of this board...but..
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| Tue, 01-06-2009 - 4:22pm |
…now, I’m not sure of it.
Some years ago, I was a frequent visitor here, even though I wasn’t involved with AP. I found it interesting and enlightening of people’s trials and errors in the name of love. That is why this board exists. One woman had lost her AP because he wouldn’t acknowledge all the things he’d said to her whilst he was having his “fun” with her. When the jig was up, and his wife found out, he dropped this woman like she was a leper. Her entire life was washed out. She’d given up home (because her AP was also her boss, and the discovery touched every facet of her life), she lost her dignity (because she believed he loved her, but he capped it off by telling everyone she was just for sex), she lost her entire life. Children included. She came here, and her words were about suicide and mistakes, but also of still loving him. And she did. Several of us during the time made her our “sister”. Kept her from fulfilling her dying wish, consoled her through days of having to rebuild her life. I’d always thought highly of this board, but now.
I’ve been gone from here for some time, just to revisit for bit from time to time to see that all is the same. This board is for support. For those who are trapped in loving someone, whilst lamenting their circumstances which keeps them from living the life that they’d truly love to. To a large degree, that is the truth of this board. Why it exists. Everyone here has a lamentation. Take a look at he posts. There isn’t a clinical psychologist out there who wouldn’t deem most people here, certifiable. There isn’t a Christian out here who wouldn’t have the harshest of criticism of the “sins” here. There isn’t a H or W who’s lives are affected by the people here that would give a rat’s patootie for the crying and lamenting of those here. However, the people here are human. Theirs is life. If what I have written and posted on this board is that of a madman, then what does that make the rest of the people here?

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OH sure!!!
OMG - what Scu said too!!!
thanks tgr.
at this point in the day i don't even remember what i said. but it was post 2272!!
Mrs.
simply wanted to say how much i enjoyed your words. something for the archives that nicely expresses what happens to posters over time.
the only thing i would add: since it's a support board, you see more posters here that have issues and need help and are in pain than you see posters who are satisfied. but there are people who have few issues and derive more comfort than pain from their As - they are just have no need to be here.
thanks for the perspective,
Mrs.
That's why many of the 'long-timers' seem to come and go.
and secret well put you nailed it.....
to everyone happy new year and yes there are many of us who are happy.
This board has changed vastly over the last couple of years. There is much more anger here than support. There is much more accusations. There is less sympathy and more people wanting to share their own story rather than listen and offer advice or words of encouragement.
I come and go, hoping to see the tides change again, as it usually does. This board, like human beings, is constantly evolving. Changes occur, good and bad, and the board, in my opinion is going through a down phase. There are many newbies who are experiencing the lowest of lows. I've been there. When you are in this low, you only seek comfort.
I'd prefer some deeper dialogue, but I'm sure we will get there again in due time.
Good post, BTW.
Anyhow, that's just my opinion!
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