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if the other person wanted to end the A
| Thu, 01-15-2004 - 2:20am |
would you just stand back and let them walk away? would you move on with your life, would you leave the door open to see if there was a chance to be together again?
My MM and i have discussed this a little, he says if I wanted to end it he would just let me go. I thought he would put up a little bit of a fight for our relationship. Ending an A can not be as easy as just walking away.. can it?
We are not at a point where we are going to end this.. it was just something I was wondering about.
SB
My MM and i have discussed this a little, he says if I wanted to end it he would just let me go. I thought he would put up a little bit of a fight for our relationship. Ending an A can not be as easy as just walking away.. can it?
We are not at a point where we are going to end this.. it was just something I was wondering about.
SB

Its easier said than done... don't believe a word he said!
Maybe he was just trying to hide his true feelings, I guess it's the opposite! He just dont wanna let you know his true feelings. REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY!!!
You both seem to be happy and contented with each other, and loosing you would surely mess up his life!
BE HAPPY!!!
The MM may indeed be be doing the reverse psychology thing as Hazel said. Also consider that it may indeed be easy for some to walk away from the A. After all, they have a spouse. Many enter an A for the bonus. If the bonus is lost, some feel that all in all, that is not too bad...inconvenient, yes, but not too bad. Why do you think many (men and women) fight harder to save their M opposed to saving their A?
If MM wanted to end our A to work on his marriage, I would back off 100% and leave him be. It would be difficult, but because I do care for him and respect him, I would.
I don’t think it’s a good idea to try and twist and/or second guess his response with “reverse psychology.” Men usually say what they mean, and if he said he’d respect your wishes, be happy and grateful for that. If he wouldn’t put up a fight, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care for you -- it means he understands and accepts the relationship for what it is.
JMHO
Charlotte
you are so right about this A staying with us forever. I do not like to think of an end to our R but if/when that happens he will remain in my heart forever. He really has touched my life in a way that I don't think he realizes.
I also agree in a way with all of the other posts about this, If he wanted to end this tomorrow I would give him the space he needed for whatever the reason was because I do love him that much, but it would not be easy for me to do but I would do it. If that makes sense?
We had a long discussion tonight and I now know that he would do the same for me but that it would also be very hard on him.
Alot of deep thoughts concerning something that has not happened yet nor do i see it happening in the near future. So I dont really know why I am even worrying about it now.
thanks for replying
SB
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