I can only share my experience. EA;s can go on for a very long time w/o intimate contact. Mine did...for many months. Some would even say mine went on for a year after I say it ended...because my AP continued to contact me..and I had a very hard time moving on because the feelings were still there. Plus we weren't even seeing each other.
Have you considered looking for another job? I know it's really tough in this economy, but I can also say from experience that working with AP's when you're trying to end it is nigh to impossible.
ITA with sweetiexo31. Complete NC is the only way out,i guess( not btdt! , read a lot on the boards ).Stay away from triggers.In your case,you need to change your job.
thoughts are thoughts. only thoughts. thoughts will go away over time.
if you can't change jobs - which you probably can't -
1) reduce your time with him 2) consider setting rules a) admit you are attracted to each other - already done that b) agree it will NEVER go any further because neither of you wants that c) agree that breaking a rule is disrespectful since the other party specifically requested the rule d) conduct all interaction in public e) if d is not possible, conduct all interaction AS IF it was in public 3) remind yourselves OFTEN you are lucky you were not caught.
Hi lifeisgood,
I can only share my experience. EA;s can go on for a very long time w/o intimate contact. Mine did...for many months. Some would even say mine went on for a year after I say it ended...because my AP continued to contact me..and I had a very hard time moving on because the feelings were still there. Plus we weren't even seeing each other.
Have you considered looking for another job? I know it's really tough in this economy, but I can also say from experience that working with AP's when you're trying to end it is nigh to impossible.
Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love. ~Anonymous
&nb
If you truly want it over....it is an absolute MUST that you
ITA with sweetiexo31. Complete NC is the only way out,i guess( not btdt! , read a lot on the boards ).Stay away from triggers.In your case,you need to change your job.
(( hugs ))
thoughts are thoughts. only thoughts. thoughts will go away over time.
if you can't change jobs - which you probably can't -
1) reduce your time with him
2) consider setting rules
a) admit you are attracted to each other - already done that
b) agree it will NEVER go any further because neither of you wants that
c) agree that breaking a rule is disrespectful since the other party specifically requested the rule
d) conduct all interaction in public
e) if d is not possible, conduct all interaction AS IF it was in public
3) remind yourselves OFTEN you are lucky you were not caught.
Mrs.
Thank you all so much for your input on this.
I can't quit my job and look elsewhere although I have entertained the thought and I prolly will eventually but not righ this moment.
When I asked him yesterday if it was bad that I still had thoughts he said "I don't know, I do too" then I replied back saying how sometimes