If you could choose just one thing...
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| Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:24am |
What "one thing" would you have in your affair, that you don't?
And what "one thing" would you have in your marriage (if you are a married AP) that you don't?
For me, the one thing I wish I could have in my A is the ability for my OM to know my family and friends - I wish he could be "known" to them - impossible I know. I can't be "known" to his family either. I dreamed recently that he took me to a family wedding and his mother hated me, felt I was "bad/toxic" to her son because she knew who and what I was... no need to interpret what that dream meant! But after 11 years of his being such a big part of my life, I sometimes yearn for the impossibility of his being included in all of my life. So my "one thing" is an impossibility, but some of yours might be possible.
The one thing I wish I had in my marriage is a bigger physical attraction to my H. I married someone I was not very physically attracted to. I thought it wouldn't matter. I thought that that part of a relationship dies down anyway. That was probably the biggest mistake of my life. What I am missing there is also an impossibility to get, I think. If there once was attraction, I think it can be recaptured with therapy/counseling. But if it was never there, I think it's just a matter of that old "chemistry". He always had the chemistry for me - in spades! If I could have just had it also, maybe I wouldn't be here now.


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I wish I could spend one full day including over night with my AP. Just us talking, hanging out and being together in general. We only have the times we work together, Maybe a drink after work once in a while and we've hung out for a few alone 3 times in the 7 years we've been involved. He is not adventurous and is deathly afraid of hurting his wife.
With H I wish I could be myself completely. He doesn't allow me to be me and that is our biggest problem.
Hi Lexi,
The one thing i would love to have in my A?
Life is too Short ... A. since Mar 29th 2009
Another good question, Lexi!
I feel exactly as you do in regards to the strong physical attraction that I don't have and never had for my husband.
i agree with the time answer.
Good questions!
As far as the affair goes, I wish our jobs and schedules didn't dictate how often/when we get to see each other or communicate.
I wish DH would kiss like AP..delicious.
Hmmm....well, like most of you, the one thing I'd wish for with AP is more time.
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