If you could choose just one thing...
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| Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:24am |
What "one thing" would you have in your affair, that you don't?
And what "one thing" would you have in your marriage (if you are a married AP) that you don't?
For me, the one thing I wish I could have in my A is the ability for my OM to know my family and friends - I wish he could be "known" to them - impossible I know. I can't be "known" to his family either. I dreamed recently that he took me to a family wedding and his mother hated me, felt I was "bad/toxic" to her son because she knew who and what I was... no need to interpret what that dream meant! But after 11 years of his being such a big part of my life, I sometimes yearn for the impossibility of his being included in all of my life. So my "one thing" is an impossibility, but some of yours might be possible.
The one thing I wish I had in my marriage is a bigger physical attraction to my H. I married someone I was not very physically attracted to. I thought it wouldn't matter. I thought that that part of a relationship dies down anyway. That was probably the biggest mistake of my life. What I am missing there is also an impossibility to get, I think. If there once was attraction, I think it can be recaptured with therapy/counseling. But if it was never there, I think it's just a matter of that old "chemistry". He always had the chemistry for me - in spades! If I could have just had it also, maybe I wouldn't be here now.


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Wow! It looks like almost everyone wants more time! That's something I can't complain about - but my OM is single and when we're together, it's for at least a few hours.
earnhardt.jr.fan - you CAN have that whole week together I'm sure, if you plan for it and arrange all the details! You are together now in the real world. Come on girl - it's a dream - make it happen. Make a list of EVERYTHING that would need to be done, and every week, settle one more detail, until - it's done! You can do it girl. I'm betting on you. :-)
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Right now a week is impossible due to work schedules, my kids being in school, etc.
However, I bet we could figure it out in the summer months. My girls will be spending long stretches of time at their dad's house, I will have some off from work and perhaps he can get time off too. :)
Lexione, first of all I want to say thanks for being the CL on this board and you are doing a GREAT job!
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Thanks for the compliment onaride. :-)
About this sentence: "I'm just trying to enjoy what he adds to my life now and not worry about what tomorrow brings." That is so what I feel also!
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