If you found out MM had another OW, w...

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Registered: 06-18-2003
If you found out MM had another OW, w...
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 12:25pm

If you found out MM had another OW, would you continue the affair?



  • No, even though I am married and sleeping with H.
  • No, even though I am single. One OW should be enough.
  • Yes - I am married and sleeping with H so what's the difference anyway?
  • Yes, I am single, but what he does is his business.


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Registered: 05-24-2003
Mon, 09-08-2003 - 12:50pm
You really needed a 'depends' category, lol!!! It would depend on the the agreement or commitment, if any, that we had. If the understanding were that, outside of our marriages, we were the only ones for each other, then I would certainly start a dialogue and I can't imagine that would end with us still together. On the other hand, if exclusivity were not the arrangement, then I would have to look deep within myself and decide whether I could share him or not.

Funny you should ask this. I never assumed anything about my OM. He's single, albeit living with his g/f, but they have an open relationship. Because of that, and because I know he always has maintained open relationships and open marriages, I never for a moment assumed that he would always keep to me and his g/f only. Some weeks ago, he told me that it was just the two of us. That made me, understandably, very happy, to say the least. But then, he went on to say that he has no interest in looking elsewhere because he cares for me so much and he'd be afraid that he would lose me if he did, so he's not. That was awfully nice to hear. Especially since I never asked him to keep just to me and never expected it.