If you left your H for OM...
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If you left your H for OM...
| Tue, 09-02-2003 - 11:58am |
do you think that all the amazing sex and passion and such would turn into what you have with H now?
OM and I could chat for hours about anything so wouldn't that go away at some point? We want to share all sorts of things together in our life won't that all get old?
OM and I could chat for hours about anything so wouldn't that go away at some point? We want to share all sorts of things together in our life won't that all get old?

here's what i think -- every R takes lots of work on both parties' part. reality/yourM is your every day life. the EMA/A is fantasy. passion flares and dies. but the man you love is worth every effort to be sexy, funny, interested, concilitory, etc. whether that man is your H or EMA lover. it ALL takes work. resolve to work at the R and never get complacent. or indifferent. that is the KISS OF DEATH!
gurl
Believe me, I spend a lot of time thinking/fantasizing/wondering about that very question! My EMA is very new, as far as the sex, but I've been friends with this person for a while. I do really wonder if the sex part would dwindle away if it were a "legitimate" relationship. More than that even, I love my MM very much, the sexual part is fabulous, and we have a lot of fun together besides that, BUT he has certain personality traits that I know would infuriate me in a serious committed relationship (mainly he cannot handle money and he's completely disorganized). So, I think for me, it's best to leave it as it is. Although, trust me, I do fantasize about moving in with him and becoming his accountant/housekeeper/sex slave, and some days that sounds pretty good!
Sandy
And when I'm on my own, my relationship with OM will reap the benefits of the fact that we don't have to deal with baby blues and staying up all night with the baby and growing up ourselves because we got married so young. We're at a much more independent stage of our lives, now, we are sure enough in ourselves to realize that a relationship can withstand, and may actually be richer for, our differences and that makes it seem more fun than the M did. I try to calculate that into the equation when I try to micromanage my future possibilites.
I'd like to think, though, that during the day I would carry on with life's everyday realities and at night I would be held in the arms of my OM and carried away to a different world. *THAT* I never had in my M.
Lucky