If you work with OM...

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Registered: 04-25-2003
If you work with OM...
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Tue, 05-11-2004 - 11:27pm
Anyone have to talk to his wife? I'm the first answer the phone where I work and sometimes it's HER. She's so sweet too. :( and polite and thoughtful and the mother of his kids who are the most important people in his world.) Some Fridays she picks up his check and/or brings him a fast food lunch. (I wouldn't swear to it but I think she may have picked out the little B-day gift he got me in Dec for him. I don't even wanna know the answer on that one.) She called the day after secretary's day to say she chewed him for not taking care of us office girls.(IM NOT A SECRETARY) That was awkward and kind of funny. She was on a rip about him. It was funnier watching him when I told him the story :) I feel a bit strange around her then I " play secretary/assistant" and forget I'm the OW.

He says it doesn"t bother him to see my DH pick me up for lunch. I think it does when DH pulls up on his motorcycle. OM is afraid of motorcycles. He had a bad accident as a kid. I always try to catch his attention from the back of the bike as we pull out of the yard.

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 8:53am
I too work w/MM, he is my boss and we have been working together for 9 years. I have talked to his W a few times on the phone. She doesn't come to the office very often but when she does I just say hello, how are you, normal stuff. We have a Christmas party every year and in December we went to a ski resort and spent the night. It was interesting to say the least. We had a wonderful dinner in a private party room that I planned and the there was a band playing in the bar and me and MM wife were dancing together. He whispered to me at one point in the evening that I looked hot and it was hard for him to keep stay away from me and keep his hands off of me. His room was right next to ours too. My H and MM talked a lot through the night buy my H does not like him because a few years ago he caught us kissing outside a bar one night...that is another story...
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Registered: 03-16-2004
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 12:00pm
My MM is also my boss and I'm friends with his wife. In fact she was the one who pushed him to hire me (years before the A started).

By being friends with his wife I get to see another side of their relationship. She doesn't love him and is only in the M for the checkbook. She hates having IC (her loss because he is great!) and complains when he makes a move in bed. He finally stopped and she said "he finally got the hint". She once made a comment that she wished he'd get a girlfriend so he'd leave her alone!

It doesn't bother me that I'm having an A with my friends H, since I know how she treats him. But it does bother me when we are out as couples and his W hangs all over MM and acts like they are the happiest couple in the world...gag me!

Our A is a lot more than great sex. We work in a high stress and morbid environment. We support each other in ways our spouses could never understand. He makes me laugh and smile when I need it most.




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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 3:18pm
I've gone to lunch with them before (with a group) - she's nice enough (it's his gf) - we talked about kids and babies (she's pg) - and I could feel him looking at me the entire time although I tried not to look at him! I see them walk out together for lunch (she comes to get him sometimes) and he usually looks back and winks to me - silly man. It doesn't really bother me much.
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Registered: 01-02-2004
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 5:02pm
OM and I teach in the same school district, but not in the same building. When I do see him for work, it is only a few times a year for district-related things. We do socialize with the same crowd, however, so I have seen the W at a few functions. As far as she knows, we met through a work friend, and are just basically acquaintences through that group.