If You're happy with M... then why
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If You're happy with M... then why
| Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:32pm |
"just wondering"
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Edited 9/22/2003 1:47:37 AM ET by lexylew
| Fri, 09-12-2003 - 5:32pm |
"just wondering"
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Edited 9/22/2003 1:47:37 AM ET by lexylew
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I am not one of those happily M women. But..I have a reply to your question.
I am M, and my H is like my best friend. Its one of those things where I cant live with him and I cant live without him. I love him, sure...but having an OM who gives me attention and admiration and physical love that my H lacks because of long hours of working, no energy and lack of sex drive....that is priceless to me.
Also...part of the excitement for me is the mysterious and exotic part of my life that is MINE and no one elses. To my hubby, he believes that i should have no private part of me. He belives that once you are married, you and your H and joined at the hip, per se...and have no privacy from one another. Its no fun to stay like that,let me tell ya!
Jeli
I often think about what I am risking by doing this, especially since who I'm doing it with....(I've done this once before 12 years ago with the same MM, and I KNOW that I WOULDN'T be doing it with anyone else)...it's just something about this one man. I mean I do love him (MM) with all my heart and I do love my H...it's just different and hard to explain to most. This one man has never left my thoughts in over 18 years (I met him at 16) & we've had a complicated relationship to say the least...but, I think why??? What is it about him, do I owe it to myself to try and find out why? I know after 12 years of no contact...I don't intend on letting him go, I just don't know if I could. But at the same time...I don't want to hurt my H, I think I'd rather die first...I just don't think I could bear to ever cause him pain like that...so I don't know at times what to do.
I have three kids and I do everything for my family, I give them all 110% of myself...which I don't regret...but yet....at times I think "what about me?" What do I get, where's the ME I USED to be type thing. I know...this isn't any kind of "Hobby" I would suggest anyone take up...but, it is the one thing I do, that's my secret, my "thing" if that makes sense...which I know it doesn't. I can't make sense of it myself...but believe it or not, EMA's do happen to happily married people...but why...I wonder if anyone can really answer??
PR
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Edited 9/22/2003 1:48:01 AM ET by lexylew
And I have to say also....cause I know 'somebody' out there is going to post this...I don't think "I" personally have anything missing in my life or that 'anything' is wrong with me, I don't have low self-esteem, etc., I've had three kids, am still a size 6, still look pretty much just like I did in high school, most people would probably consider me attractive..although, there are things of course "I" would change about myself. I don't have an ego problem by saying this, I'm just saying...I've been VERY LUCKY body wise, especially after having kids...I tell my friends this all the time when they say I make them sick (jokingly) cause I still have my figure...it's just LUCK? I'm one of the lucky ones. Anyway, needless to say I've never experienced having trouble attracting men or getting attention so I know that's not it??
I know I get attention at home, so that's not it either, mmmmm maybe the process of elimination would help me here...lol. << Seriously though, with me it's just about this one long lost love like I said before. I 've loved him I think since the first day I ever saw him, never forgot, never will...and if I could leave & be with this guy..... without hurting anyone...I would.......in a heartbeat, even though....."I'm Happy, per say" lol
I'm probably not quite one of the women you're after... while at the moment I'm rather content in my marriage and my life... it's mainly because of my EMA.
I've had marriage problems for a few years now... a whole part of it is not getting my needs forfilled. Oh sure! we've done marriage counselling and it has helped, but at the same time there are things that just can't be changed. I have a family and really do not want to break it apart.
My EMA fills quite a few voids... and not just the sex... this all in turn makes me content and life is good. If I'm happy... then those around me are too.
I know the risks... and I've weighed it all up... and it's one risk I'm willing to take. Regardless of what people will say about me should it all come out... I know in my heart and my head I have given my marriage everything... so I would be able to live with the outcome. However... of course I do everything to prevent it.
Sweet
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And....I'm living proof that you CAN be "happily" married...(geez, I'm not sure that's the right expression) and STILL be in love with someone else!! I think it's totally possible to love more than one person. At one time, I didn't think this was so, but now I know it is.
PR
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