I'll never be able to let this go...

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Registered: 08-21-2008
I'll never be able to let this go...
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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 3:29pm

Ughh.... the NC didn't last. 45 days but I was sick and instead of getting better I was getting sicker... So I caved

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Registered: 07-29-2008
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 4:53pm
It does get better with time as long as you stay NC. I've made it a point to do just that. I still think of him alot and had a dream about him last week but we haven't talked or seen each other in over 6 months. He's called a couple of times but I wouldn't answer the phone. I know that things will never go anywhere with him and that he can't leave his W under the circumstances and I want a man that can give me more. I know that if I break the NC that I won't have the willpower to resist him. Stop settling for seconds and care enough of yourself to expect more. Settle for seconds and seconds is what you will always get.
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Registered: 08-21-2008
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 6:12pm

Personally I will take the seconds...I've been married--twice--and I do not ever want a live in relationship ever again. If that's what it means to be first...then seconds is where it is at. While I would like to see him more often...I realize that the living together thing ruins it all....


I understand there are many women who are willing to still believe in the "knight in shining armor" and/or "happily-ever-after" deal...but I am one gal who cannot. I would rather have a piece of him than a whole lot someone else that I