Im back... and I want this to end.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2010
Im back... and I want this to end.
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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 5:47am

Hi all


Well I had my hysterectomy on Wednesday and home on Saturday. Feeling pretty sore but definately on the mend. My H has been amazing- so fantastically supportive and just great as my nurse, family chef, family driver/organiser etc.


Compare that to AP who was overseas for nearly 3 weeks before I went in to hospital and arrived back the day after nmy op. He sent very few texts the first two weeks he was gone, but I think this was alogistics issue as he started to send more (and also called me) in the few days before I went into hospital.


He sent a few nice texts while I was in hospital and he called me today.


But I dunno- this is so not working for me.


His texts, while initaited by him, are nice and some are sweet, are sending my mind into overdrive. I must read them 10 times Id say. Then I analyse it big time. Today I sent a few texts this arvo and then even said could you send me something nice because i missed you so much. That was at 1. At 6 he sent 'Good night, only just finished, Kisses'.

You are what you consistently do

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2010
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 11:06am

Oh, boy!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2010
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 4:14pm

"Do you think daily contact (m-F) is fair??"


You bet your sweet patootie I do!

anotherseyes

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2010
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 1:36am

Yeah I hear you. Maybe it is different as I have no expectation of having a future with him- so Im more vulnerable to the fact that this WILL end, I would prefer it to

You are what you consistently do
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2010
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 8:54am

I am new here and have been following your story/thread. I just wanted to say that for me, my only expectations from my A is respect and discretion. Respect for him but more importantly respect for me. That has become my measure in everything I say or do with AP and anything he says/does to me.

I refuse to let emotions or needs get in the way of that. If I don't respect myself, how can I expect him or anyone else to respect me.

Stay strong! You can do this!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2010
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 11:16am
Just let him know that you know he gets busy, but if he says he's going to contact you, please do so, even if it's only a quick text saying he's really busy.

anotherseyes

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