I'm calling the W - wish me luck
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I'm calling the W - wish me luck
| Fri, 05-07-2004 - 1:30pm |
She is still harassing me so I finally agreed to speak with her. She's been making all kinds of crazy threats. I just need this to stop. So I emailed her and told her I'd call. I also told her I wouldn't respond to any more email from her. For whatever reason, getting email from me seems to have calmed her and she has stopped emailing. The phone call is going to suck but I think it is the only way to get her to back off. She wants to talk to H too. He REALLY doesn't want to talk to her, but has agreed to if it will make her go away. Basically she wants me to know that "I've ruined her family forever" and she wants my H to know how awful I am. I just want this over with. I want to pick up the pieces and move on.
Wish me luck!
GB2

Thanks for all of you who've been reading and thinking of me - especially Red Bella. I'm sure I'll be posting again since there's still a lot of unresolved stuff to deal with and there's no one out there who understands like y'all do. Thanks again!
Peace
GB2
so take it easy on yourself and the guilt. as your H told his W, you two have been together a long time and been through alot so this is just another period of readjustment and fine-tuning. every R goes through these stages. hang in there and come back and let us know how you're doing.
hugs to you gb. please know you will get through this and in time will even learn from it. take care sweetie.
life
Sadly, I don't think this is over yet. She's hinted that she is sending me/my H something. Not sure what it could be. Perhaps copies of the email? H says he'll just throw away anything she sends. I worry that maybe she's going to try to sue me or involve me in the D some how. Not sure what she's up to but I just have a strong sense that she's not done yet.
H has been way better about all this than I ever expected. I agree with your suggestion about lavishing attention on him and the M. I'm trying. Part of the problem with our M to begin with is that H isn't around much. He's trying to be better though.
Anyway, I will keep everyone posted on the situation. Thanks again for your well wishes. Please keep me in your thoughts - I need all the positive vibes I can get.
GB2
go with your gut and be wary of whatever MM's W says, but actions speak louder than words and it's true. if she send copies of the emails, so what? it's just words. if you can look at your H and say nothing happened, then he'll believe you, no matter what. as you said, you never crossed the physical line and there aren't pics or anything like that, you've been pretty honest about talking and being friends, so whatever MM's W wants to do, tell her to bring it!
i know you're worried about all this, but MM's W has enough to deal with at home and is taking her anger out on you, instead of MM. how fair is that? it isn't but that's life.
MM and his W need to deal with their marital problems and leave you alone. and if it were me, i'd even tell MM's W that you'll be filing harassment charges against her if she doesn't stop all contact with you immediately - phone, email and regular mail. i believe it's called a cease and desist order. turn the tables on her and stop being the victim. get mad and chase her away!
keep your chin up, gb!!
life
You are right - I do need to chin up and stand my ground. In fact, MM emailed me those exact words earlier today. I don't think he knows what she has been up to. I didn't enlighten him - he's got his own problems. Maybe tomorrow I'll feel stronger - especially if I can manage to eat something and get some sleep. Right now I just feel dragged down and sad. I still feel partly responsible for what happened even though I know I shouldn't.
Anyway, thanks again. You've been a major life line for me today when I deserately needed one. I hope I can return the favor one day.
(((hugs)))
GB2
seriously, gb, don't worry over his W. she's making a ton of noise, but do think she will seriously put her issues out in a public forum for everyone in town to snicker over? she's trying to scare you away and keep her H at home. and it's not working since MM's still emailing you positive reinforcement.
do something just for you right now. stay on the board if you want to. or go read a book. or take a bath, with candles. anything to take your mind off this crap for awhile.
i'll be around. just holler and i'll come arunning.....
life
I'm sorry to hear your life is spinning out of control. Have you posted about it? I'll have to try to find the thread. Whatever is going on it sounds like you've got the right attitude. Stay strong!
Thanks again for everything. You rock! I hope you have a good night and a great weekend!
GB2