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I'm curious...
| Wed, 03-18-2009 - 7:21pm |
has anyone here ended their marriage and ended up with the person they began the affair with? I'm just curious if anyone has actually ended up with the AP.

I'm on my 2nd M. H was an AP during M #1. 5 years now.
-jana
I am engaged now to my former AP.
Well I did.... not initially, we broke it off about 4 years ago and he went off and got married, i almost got married myself (we ended for a number of reasons none of which was cheating) and about 6 months ago he came back out of nowhere. we just chatted, i knew he had gotten married through my family (he works in the same office) and i congratulated him. He returned with when he said he was looking for his future ex-wife he always thought he was joking. Turns out he was getting divorced. We decided to give us a real chance without all the sneakiness and lies and see if we actually had something other than the mystery and excitement that comes with an affair. Turns out we do and we couldnt be happier.
Sometimes you do actually have to let them go. As hard as it was for me (and man was it hard) and let them see (really see, not like a month of NC) life without u. They may not ever come back, but if he never did, then he wouldnt be the person that i was meant to be with. And to be honest, i was no longer looking for him to come back to me anymore, it was more like a pleasant suprise of emotion that i forgot was there.
So in my case, OW is now the ONLY woman.
Hi Notsure -
Yes, I am also in a RL R with my former AP - he and I have been living together for almost two years now.
He was the M one - I had been D for a year when we met - online.