i'm curious

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i'm curious
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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 5:58pm

who here has ever said hey would NEVER mess around with a married person...??


me first....raising my hand high in the air going ooo oooh oooh not me..no never....anyone else wanna reveal...?


thanks everyone..your posts and threads are helping me get through these gut wrenching days...i've sat everyday for the past week and 3 days in tears barely able to see the computer screen..but i'm feeling a tad bit better......

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 12-30-2008
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 6:07pm
Well I've been back and forth on it... i used to believe it was not my job to keep anyone faithful but me.
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 6:19pm

ME!!! Waving both hands in the air.


I said I would NEVER mess with anyone else's man because I wouldn't like it if someone was messing with mine..yet here I am 8 years into an A next month.

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Registered: 10-23-2008
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 6:24pm

Although this is not my first A

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Registered: 01-18-2009
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 6:34pm
Yup. I never, ever thought I would have an affair. Not just because I thought it was morally wrong (which I do), but also because I had seen too many people do it and saw the pain, frustration and just ickyness it brought with it. I never wanted to be a part of that. But I did. And having done it, I can now say with utter conviction that I would never do it again. To me, it's just one big dead end. Like a big budget movie that just goes nowhere. There are some that work out, and more power to them. But they are the few and far between. For most it just seems to be a huge exercise in futility.
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Registered: 01-12-2009
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 6:36pm
Never in my mind did I think I would get invovled with a MM. Because my XH had several A's on me, I had a list of things that I would not accept
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Registered: 01-15-2009
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 8:25pm
Oh my gosh, a thousand times over, me me me! This is not my first A, but I was M the last time, and I always ALWAYS told myself that I wouldn't be the OW. If I wanted to mess up my own M, that was my choice, but I wouldn't mess up another person's M. Wow. That makes it a little hard to believe that I am doing what I am doing. But here it is, right? At least this time, I am S. And I am not proud of the choices I have made, but I don't regret any of them. I needed out of my horrible M, and I took the chickens**t way, but I don't regret it. And I don't regret what I am doing now. I am being very careful, this is obviously not his first A, and his W will never find out. I am very confident of that. But still, I think of who I was a couple of years ago (a judgmental shrew) and who I am now, and even with the things that I have done, I would not go back to who I was for anything.
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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 9:22pm
girl i always used to say that..now i've learned to never say never

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 9:24pm
thanks jdgirl03..guess part of this thread was to beat myself up some more...but, it's cool to hear peoples different responses...i never ever thought i would ever mess around with someone who is married...maybe you can't help who you love

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss




Edited 1/20/2009 9:24 pm ET by tygerzize

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 9:27pm
well ..supposedly this is his first A...i should stop, i don't have any reason to believe he ever lied about anything...but anyway..this is my 1st...and dangnabbit...i wouldnt do it again with ANYONE ELSE..noone else...heck naw....ugh

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 9:29pm
i know right...gosh..some people never feel guilty some do...i feel guilty a lot..even when it's not going on..when it is going on and it's good..maybe it's me beating myself up again...i shouldn't but, i do....i do have responsibility in it....he doesn't like me to blame myself though..he wants to take the blame for the A..i guess to beat himself up..who knows...

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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