i'm curious

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Registered: 10-03-2008
i'm curious
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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 5:58pm

who here has ever said hey would NEVER mess around with a married person...??


me first....raising my hand high in the air going ooo oooh oooh not me..no never....anyone else wanna reveal...?


thanks everyone..your posts and threads are helping me get through these gut wrenching days...i've sat everyday for the past week and 3 days in tears barely able to see the computer screen..but i'm feeling a tad bit better......

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 9:31pm
i don't want to end mine either but i have to...AP showed me some things from his last conversation..showed me some ways he can be....he thinks he speaks in love..anyhow...that was at the top of my list of what not to accept as well...but you never know now do ya...?

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 11-16-2008
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 11:09pm
I swore I would never do to another woman what had been done to me. I condemned any and everyone that I knew had affairs! OMG--I have been involved in one for what seems like forever now. I was just thinking the other day that God must have had a plan to make me a little more forgiving and less critical of others when I ended up crossing paths w/ AP. I have certainly become more forgiving and a lot less judgmental--I think that is a good thing.
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Registered: 01-27-2008
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 2:34am

I always beleived it to be morally wrong, never thought i would do this, never beleived i was capable and so many people around me i know would be shocked if they knew.


But its happened before i could give it a thought it happened and now i find myself in a relationship with a wonderful man of whom we both beleive we love each other. But who knows if in the real world it is true love.


All i can say is that does this not prove to many of us

"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"


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Registered: 11-12-2008
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 10:17am

Reading some posts here tells me that your A is done? I havent been here for sometime.I am so sorry for you.You had a nice AP.Is it completely done or is it just a passing phase ? I am sure you guys will be back.I do recall some of your story but guess life moves very fast.So much happened in your life in such few days!Whew !

I believe true love finds its way.If its meant to be, he will come around.But if you are done too,then its done for good.

((( hugs )))

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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 11:22am
well...funkygone punky.he's a wonderful man...absolutely a good AP..but he keeps stirring the pot when i react to some things he does or says....he keeps trying to get me to say that i want him only and want to be with him for me...it's very hard...it may be a passing phase i do not know...i never considered it that way...i did meet a nice guy...but i doubt we'll be more than friends...i can't jump around different guys at one time..i get wayyy confused...lol

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 12-18-2008
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 12:30pm

This is something I can only say here. Looking back, I always cheated, some way, some how. My pattern has always been to get a BF (or, later, H), then end up with someone on the side (2 AP at the moment). I probably have 'said' at some point or other that I would not do it, that it was wrong and bad. And I know if I caught H cheating there would be hell to pay. And yet on I go just doing it anyway. {sigh} Not sure I understand myself, but I am pretty sure I'm not changing any time soon.

--jana

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Registered: 01-22-2009
Fri, 01-23-2009 - 9:32am
Me..... though a wee lad I did think about a lot of my friends mothers - and then I later adjusted my no married policy - for no married first timers....... and well ...... hmmmm ya that would be it...now anyway
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Sat, 01-24-2009 - 2:53pm
I don't think it's envy, just concern.
love
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Registered: 11-12-2008
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 9:22am

hey tyger! how are you doing dolly? I have been thinking of you.I am sure your AP loves you and wants to be with you but as he is M ,he cant give you it all.But i guess he gives you a lot more than the AP's we read here.Small disagreements can be ignored if he is worth it,you know.

keep us posted.(( hugs ))

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Tue, 01-27-2009 - 11:26am

thanks funky for thinking about me..right now i'm not trying to think about things...we have only talked by text and not often at all...it was only a response to what i text him..he still expected to be in my life somehow with me dating other people..he got what he asked for except with me eliminating him from the picture..it's cool..i'm trying to learn from this and move past him...again i say i'm trying because i have no idea what the future holds...lol...we both knew what we were getting into and there would be a brick wall...a dead end or whatever you want to call it...some days i feel good and great...i've been on dates and met nice people...then some days i miss him dearly...some days i'm super angry with him....but, i'll be fine...


it felt good to know you were thinking about me....


tyger

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss