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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 2:29pm
What were some of your expectations going into the A that you are in? Especially the ones that are either MW and seeing MM or even single and seeing MM. SOXS

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 2:52pm
I am a SW seeing a MM...I had absolutely no expectations and I still don't...I knew the circumstances going in to this...although knowing what I know now, I don't know if I would do this A again...it is much more emotionally challenging than I ever thought it would be...the highs, the lows...sometimes it is just so overwhelming...but I do love him very much and I am sticking it out because of that love.


Edited 2/18/2004 2:53:44 PM ET by unexpectedow
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:23pm

Hi SOXS,


I'm a MW seeing a MM... and I had no expectations going into this... in fact I remember sitting down with MM somewhat almost 4 years ago and him asking me what my expectations were... I told him I had none.


A few months back... we were talking and I'm not sure how it come about... but I again told him that I didn't expect anything more... only to keep what we already have.


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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:41pm
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 6:26pm
I am a MW seeing a MM and the only thing that i told him I would ask from him was for total honesty...I feel like that is just showing each other the respect that we deserve.

I told him in the beginning that I would never lie to him either.

I know this sounds strange considering the extent of our R, but I also expect for him not to see other women, I know he has a wife and that I can deal with, but if he started seeing anyone else , that would be more than I could handle. We have discussed this and we have the same expectations from each other.Sounds strange huh? lol

later

SB

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 6:53pm
Hi alwaysaware

I have not given up my life for MM...I do not sit here pining away wishing he would leave his wife for me...I would never want that...I am content with what we have right now...I still go out with my friends and I still hope to find my Mr. Right...as of right now he has not come along...I still date and one day I will find someone to settle down with.

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 7:43pm
I am a MW seeing a MM - I had no expectations going into this. We met through work (we don't work together, I am vendor - are there rules for this??) and flirted and flirted and talked about having dinner for months. I thought he was D. I did not find out he was M until the first night he kissed me. I never asked his marital status, he does not wear a ring, so I just assumed. I guess I never thought it would go this far or this intense. 8 months...we see each other at least 1 or 2x per week. Although, it's very sexual...I have deep feelings for him. I believe in my heart he does to - he just doesn't express them!
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 8:20pm
SW seeing a MM...no expectations other than to enjoy his company.

Rose

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 9:30pm


Going in: Looking to play and enjoy being with an absolutely riveting, intelligent, funny, handsome man.

It quickly became more on both sides:

Now: Cherish each moment, knowing that I may not have him forever. He still tells me he's not sure what is going to happen. I've told him that I'll wait for a bit, and enjoy what we have now, but this is our learning time. At the end of the year, we will reevaluate. I'm not living through another holiday season like I did last year.

In the meanwhile: Dear God, I love this man.



Cazrida

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 9:41pm
Going into the A.....no expectations, had no idea what to expect, as I was not 'looking' for this to happen.

Now, four years later......still no expections, but lots of wants and wishes....we fell in love! Which makes it very difficult for BOTH of us.

TTT

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 11:42pm
I had none to begin with....I never intended for it to be an "affair" at all -

but now that I am where I am I just expect us to be honest with each other, have fun, enjoy the time we can share together and be there for each other as much as we can.

I feel he is my best friend first and foremost - whatever else I can get from him is just a bonus !!

4JS

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