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I'm doing it....I'm filing
| Tue, 03-09-2004 - 10:22am |
My H and I had a big fight last night...the final straw, so to speak. He is a very angry, domineering person and can be quite cruel to me and the kids. His anger has gotten to the point where I am almost afraid to be around him. My stomach knots up just thinking about going home to face him tonight. I'm going to play it cool for a few days in order to retain an attorney, find an apartment, and arrange to have a day off work to get everything moved. I'm even going to have the papers served while I'm moving out in order to have a police officer at my house in case he shows up. I'm even going to try to obtain a restraining order against him because of his anger. Have any of you ever gone through this type of situation? My MM is very supportive of me...he knows I am doing this for me and the kids...he knows it's not for him. But in him, I have found a wonderful listener and a person with the background and education to give me good advice. If I didn't have him right now, it would be so easy to fall apart. I am grateful for each of you, as well. Thank you.

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Edited 3/9/2004 11:42 am ET ET by saturdaysister
Edited 3/9/2004 11:36:58 AM ET by julietsfate
Regardless, I'm so glad you are escaping this horrible situation NMR and that the rest of you have gotten out of your abusive relationships as well. These men don't deserve you.
I also feel both bad and good about my own situation after reading this. Bad because I am leaving a relationship that isn't abusive or even contentious for the most part. We never fight because there isn't enough there. She loves me and I care for her, but she lacks the commitment to her values or the need to communicate enough. It's like we're living in different worlds. I feel good because I know that when I do leave, I can count on her handling the custody situation the right way. I believe we will be able to remain friends for the sake of the children and hopefully both move in healthy ways.
I sincerely wish you the best of luck NMR. I tend to think you should try to stay in that house if possible. But if you can't or you feel it would make things more difficult, then do what you feel is best. Just be very careful. As I've said before, I don't pray, but I'll wish you and your children safety and happiness. Take care.
I almost left him several months ago but then chickened out.
I hope you remain brave enough to leave. Its not easy, I've been D'd 1x already, but haven't made the decision yet to leave #2.
Its good that you have MM to help you emotionally etc. while you're going thru this.
My first time around, I was all alone and it was very hard. Good luck to you honey,
Dusty
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
noregrets -- girl, when you get to that point of being calm and picturing yourself living elsewhere, you are ready to go!
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
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