I'm doing it....I'm filing
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I'm doing it....I'm filing
| Tue, 03-09-2004 - 10:22am |
My H and I had a big fight last night...the final straw, so to speak. He is a very angry, domineering person and can be quite cruel to me and the kids. His anger has gotten to the point where I am almost afraid to be around him. My stomach knots up just thinking about going home to face him tonight. I'm going to play it cool for a few days in order to retain an attorney, find an apartment, and arrange to have a day off work to get everything moved. I'm even going to have the papers served while I'm moving out in order to have a police officer at my house in case he shows up. I'm even going to try to obtain a restraining order against him because of his anger. Have any of you ever gone through this type of situation? My MM is very supportive of me...he knows I am doing this for me and the kids...he knows it's not for him. But in him, I have found a wonderful listener and a person with the background and education to give me good advice. If I didn't have him right now, it would be so easy to fall apart. I am grateful for each of you, as well. Thank you.

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Yes, it gets harder and you need to prepare yourself to fight. We don't like to think of ourselves that way. It is much easier on our ego to think that everyone will just support us and things will be fair.
They won't.
Even though you just want out, and you need to be out, get everything you can for your kids. Your STBX will be around, probably causing grief, for years. You need room to maneuver, and that starts now.
Be tough. We'll be here for you. He may rant and cause trouble, but believe me, its better to fight now and have something to work with later than to just walk away from everything and still have to fight later.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Cazrida
I know I am in for a big fight. I do have a lot of support and it will take TONS more just to get through this. I'm hoping to start postings soon to let you know that my deposit's down on the apartment....the paper's have been served....I've moved out....I'm cuddling with my kids watching cartoons knowing that H isn't going to come in screaming, yelling and berating us anymore. Who cares if we're eating macaroni and cheese all the time? It'll be happy macaroni and cheese!
I am drawing a parallel here, you understand, don't you?
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You are too funny, boston! (((HUGS)))
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