I'm doing it....I'm filing

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Registered: 02-16-2004
I'm doing it....I'm filing
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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 10:22am
My H and I had a big fight last night...the final straw, so to speak. He is a very angry, domineering person and can be quite cruel to me and the kids. His anger has gotten to the point where I am almost afraid to be around him. My stomach knots up just thinking about going home to face him tonight. I'm going to play it cool for a few days in order to retain an attorney, find an apartment, and arrange to have a day off work to get everything moved. I'm even going to have the papers served while I'm moving out in order to have a police officer at my house in case he shows up. I'm even going to try to obtain a restraining order against him because of his anger. Have any of you ever gone through this type of situation? My MM is very supportive of me...he knows I am doing this for me and the kids...he knows it's not for him. But in him, I have found a wonderful listener and a person with the background and education to give me good advice. If I didn't have him right now, it would be so easy to fall apart. I am grateful for each of you, as well. Thank you.

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Registered: 01-14-2004
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 5:28pm
We should start a new thread of our descriptions and those of our OW/OM...lol

I'm 6' 170 and she's 5'10" 115 :)

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 5:48pm


LOLOL

He's 6'4", 200. I'm 5'3 1/2" (that's an important 1/2", BTW) and you never ask a lady's weight, but I wear a size 10. And he makes me feel like a tiny Barbie doll. ::very big grin::

He's ex-military, too! Lord, they do turn out some wonderful men!

Cazrida

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 5:53pm
My MM is 6' and still military, gorgeous blue eyes. i am 5'4" 110lbs and brown and brown!! I luv being with him he makes me feel beautiful!!


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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 6:10pm
oh boy what did I start!! LOL.




Edited 3/11/2004 9:49 am ET ET by julietsfate

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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 10:17pm
She is not strikingly beautiful but incredibly attractive and feminine. Elegant as a figurine. Curly red hair and green eyes. Totally takes my breath away.
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Registered: 02-16-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 7:47am
Last night when I got home, H was in a pretty good mood. Of course, I knew I was still filing, but there is still guilt, for whatever reason. He's saying he's fed up at work and wants to quit (with no job in the foreseeable future) which is grating underneath my skin. I talked to an attorney yesterday who gave me an approximate amount of what I can expect for child support for my two children....he's got to keep working. But, that's not my problem anymore...he can work an extra job or two...this will be his responsibility. I'm just venting...sorry...I'm so stressed out lately.

I talked to MM yesterday and he helped me out of my funk a little bit. He is always good at cheering me up. I miss him so much because on top of everything else, I sure could use a good hug. I'll keep you all posted. Thanks for being there for me.

Oh...and by the way, my H told me this morning that he shot our neighbor's cat because it kept coming over and eating our cat's food. I'm half tempted to call somebody and report it anonymously. I don't know if I should, he'd probably figure out it was me who reported it. I'm so upset over this.

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 9:50am
Aww, how did you let her go away in the first place?? :)
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 10:33am

hey nry -- sweetie, everything you're feeling is unfortunately normal in this situation.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 10:43am
Ok, I'll jump on this band wagon! My MM is 6'4" weighing in at about 240. I'm 5'2" and I wear a size 8 (lets leave it at that). He has hazel eyes with lots of dark brown hair and I have really long blonde locks with blue eyes:)NMR
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Registered: 02-16-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 1:05pm
I retained an attorney today!!!!! Just wanted to let you know that I have the ball rolling. It's rolling uphill actually, because I know what a battle this could be. No, not could be....will be.

And, being in Georgia (I'm not sure about rules in other states), once papers are signed, it's only a 30-day period for finalization. If anyone else has gone through a divorce, could you give me some idea of a timeline for you....between filing papers and being free again. I know the states are different, but it'd give me some sort of idea.

Thanks!!

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