I'm confused. What is it you really want from Him and this R? In my benign outsiders perspective your push and pull game are just ways of manipulating the situation in the hopes that he will suddenly realized that he loves you and and can't live without you. If that's your intent then all this "go away", "come chase me" games are not working. He asked you to go on vacation with him, you said no. So, being the M person that he is, he's taking his W. Why then are you having a cow and punishing him for that? He is a MM who's already committed to someone else.
Maybe you need to spell it out for him in person "face-to-face" what you're expectations are, so that he'll understand what he needs to do if he wants to keep enjoying your company and to maybe build a future with you. If that's not what you want, then be honest and tell him there's no future there so that he can move on to someone who'll have no unrealistic expectations and understand that if he is M to someone else then the R is just that an A..
I'm sorry, it does break my heart reading your post because I see myself in it.
I know exactly what you're going thru because in the beginning of my affair, I used to see him for hours every, single day! He used to keep his word about calling me, and seeing me...then things sort of slipped..he'd forget to call,
I'm confused. What is it you really want from Him and this R? In my benign outsiders perspective your push and pull game are just ways of manipulating the situation in the hopes that he will suddenly realized that he loves you and and can't live without you. If that's your intent then all this "go away", "come chase me" games are not working. He asked you to go on vacation with him, you said no. So, being the M person that he is, he's taking his W. Why then are you having a cow and punishing him for that? He is a MM who's already committed to someone else.
Maybe you need to spell it out for him in person "face-to-face" what you're expectations are, so that he'll understand what he needs to do if he wants to keep enjoying your company and to maybe build a future with you. If that's not what you want, then be honest and tell him there's no future there so that he can move on to someone who'll have no unrealistic expectations and understand that if he is M to someone else then the R is just that an A..
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From an outsiders point of view, I think you may have over reacting a tad bit.
First, I think the poor man just wants a vacation, period.
Thank you both for your responses.
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I'm sorry, it does break my heart reading your post because I see myself in it.
I know exactly what you're going thru because in the beginning of my affair, I used to see him for hours every, single day! He used to keep his word about calling me, and seeing me...then things sort of slipped..he'd forget to call,
Oh LIT -
I'm so proud of you I could burst!!
Hey lit :)
How about posting an update on you :)
Lynn & Clarity -
Thank you for your positive and encouraging words of wisdom!
It is a great deal of struggle to leave an affair; however, I cannot continue to live a life of lies and deception.