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I'm feeling so guilty
| Sat, 08-16-2003 - 10:42am |
Hi, I am new here and would like to talk to people about what I have gotten myself into.
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months, but went out with him 11 years ago, he was my first true love, but we were young and he didnt want to be serious then we were only 16, we stayed the best of friends and loved each other for it, but over time we lost contact, and I wrote him a letter and he wrote back telling me he loved me and thought we both deserved to see if we could build a relationship together. I am in love with him and him with me, we get along great, we have never fought, at first there was lots of passion and sex was very intense, for us both, but my sex drive is so much more then his and he doesnt have a problem turning me down, which makes me feel like Im not sexy enough to stir his senses. I have been going to the dance bar once a week, and I have men hit on me all the time which gives me such an ego boost, I love it. I never had any intentions of being with any of these men, but recently I did have sex with one of them, and I liked it. I dont know why I cheated, and I dont know if I will do it again, I really hope not.
Im not going to get into that situation again. I do really love my boyfriend and he is who I want to be with, How do I get over what I did?
Im not going to tell him. or should I? I have been thinking about the other guy I was with. Help me to figure this Out please.
Edited 8/16/2003 10:56:25 AM ET by sillyfool2003
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months, but went out with him 11 years ago, he was my first true love, but we were young and he didnt want to be serious then we were only 16, we stayed the best of friends and loved each other for it, but over time we lost contact, and I wrote him a letter and he wrote back telling me he loved me and thought we both deserved to see if we could build a relationship together. I am in love with him and him with me, we get along great, we have never fought, at first there was lots of passion and sex was very intense, for us both, but my sex drive is so much more then his and he doesnt have a problem turning me down, which makes me feel like Im not sexy enough to stir his senses. I have been going to the dance bar once a week, and I have men hit on me all the time which gives me such an ego boost, I love it. I never had any intentions of being with any of these men, but recently I did have sex with one of them, and I liked it. I dont know why I cheated, and I dont know if I will do it again, I really hope not.
Im not going to get into that situation again. I do really love my boyfriend and he is who I want to be with, How do I get over what I did?
Im not going to tell him. or should I? I have been thinking about the other guy I was with. Help me to figure this Out please.
Edited 8/16/2003 10:56:25 AM ET by sillyfool2003

I suggest you reevaluate your R with B/F. You aren't 16 anymore. People change.
If you want to try to make things work, talk to him about your problems. Tell him when he turns you down you feel rejected and unsexy...ask him to come to clubs with you -- even if he doesn't dance -- maybe he will eventually.
What kind of changes could you make to motivate him? What could you do to get him interested?
If you are set on staying with B/F, try to figure out what will work for both of you. If you can't make this work, then why stay? You will probably keep straying, and what is the point?
As far as the 1 night stand goes...what is done is done. If you want to date other men, then break up with your B/F. If you don't want anymore 1 nite stands, then don't do it. Don't go to the clubs by yourself --take a friend, take b/f...(obviously guys will hit on you -- in a club, alcohol, no b/f hanging on you)....
Good luck to you,
Alameda