I know how you feel; I am in a similar situation. I wish OM would mean what he says, or just not say anything at all. It hurts when he says he will do something and then not follow through. Contact is all part of the whole EMA, so I take it personal when I don't see a message for more than a week.
I have made up my mind, though. As much as I want to keep in contact, I must live my life. I am trying to be busy doing what I like to do....easier said than done. However, what choice do I have? If and when he finally does contact me, I might not reply right away. I'm still thinking about what I want to do to handle this. I need to keep my dignity.....
This seems to be a common thing. I haven't heard from my MM for about 3 weeks now. Last time we emailed each other, he said he'd like to get together the following week. Then ... nothing. I don't get it. Because it DOES seem like longer when you don't hear from them. I have his cell # but I would never call it, he says it stays in his car and he doesn't use it. Plus I don't want to lose my self-respect by hounding him. Although I did send a very short message today saying "haven't talked to you in awhile, hope you are okay, take care". He was ill last time we talked. What else can you do??
Plus we haven't actually been together since July 30th. I'm pretty well getting used to the not seeing him part of this. Although I do miss him, but gradually its getting less and less ...
I have made up my mind, though. As much as I want to keep in contact, I must live my life. I am trying to be busy doing what I like to do....easier said than done. However, what choice do I have? If and when he finally does contact me, I might not reply right away. I'm still thinking about what I want to do to handle this. I need to keep my dignity.....
Good luck to you...
Plus we haven't actually been together since July 30th. I'm pretty well getting used to the not seeing him part of this. Although I do miss him, but gradually its getting less and less ...
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Edited 9/20/2004 2:19 pm ET ET by seansluv