I'm having an affair and I'm confused

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2008
I'm having an affair and I'm confused
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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 2:30am

Hello all,


I have been having an affair with a married man who also happens to work with me and is my boss.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2008
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 7:26am

Hi Kimmili


i am right here with you on this one.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2008
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 10:37am

Hi Kim,


I'm in the same situation except I don't have small children although he does.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-04-2007
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 11:03am

Kim:


I just wanted to jump in and add

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2008
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 3:15pm

Hi and thanks so much for your input.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-04-2007
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 3:29pm

Kimber Lee:


Yes, it is nice to have someone to talk to about our A's.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2008
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 8:30pm

I go from being insecure some days to anger at my situation and wanting him to just go away!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2008
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 9:47pm

I Wanna Go Back:


That pretty much says it all for me, but I am hooked and can't find my way out.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2008
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 6:58am
You don't sound confused to me! Sounds like you been doing this all your life LOL! I wish I had it that together by my second post. I was (and still am at times) a freakin' fruit loop! Kudos to you g/f!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 5:50pm

hey not to hijack but to chime in, i'm a newbie to this..but i'm also a thinker..when i calm down that is..because lawd know's my ap turns me to friggin pudding and mush and i get very high strung when i think he's being a certain way..but he has an heir about him..he calms me and tells me to think about things..he's never nasty or mean and he doesn't back off..but hey, he and i both say we don't know what we're doing because we're new to this...i like how he can tame the shrew in me...and i like how he handles me...he never lets up..anyway..i say that to say


do you think that he backs off after being intimate/sexual because he may feel guilty as well? then he thinks about things and is able to calm and come back to you.

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2008
Tue, 10-28-2008 - 1:15pm

Hi All,


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